Hi everyone,
For the past six months or so I have come to expect that my husband might have undiagnosed aspergers. We have been together for over ten years.
My husband is in his 40s, succesful in his profession and I do not think anyone who was not in a very close relationship with him might ever suspect unless they have extensive experience/knowledge of the spectrum. I have read quite a bit about AS, aspergers and autism and relationships and recognise a lot of the characteristics described (both strengths as well as the challenges).
I would really appreciate advice from people on how best to approach this topic with my husband. My worry is that he will feel very negatively about it and feel that I am looking to blame our issues on him.
The truth is that I really want to find a way out of the negative spiral that we are in. As previous approaches have not worked, perhaps considering AS and the challenges of an ND/NT relationship as a factor in our problems could be a really good step to creating a happier home for all of us.
We have a beautiful little family and more than anything I want us to be together happily but I do feel mentally exhausted from the trials and tribulations we have been through in the past two years and the isolation of covid.
Thank you so much for your advice!
p.s. I am personally not bothered at all about a formal diagnosis as for me this is mainly about us functioning as well as possible as a family unit but not sure how others feel about diagnosis and whether this had a positive impact on them and working through challenges within a relationship?
