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Can sex be an obsession for autistic men?

Lulu

Hi all,

If you have seen any of my previous posts you will be aware I'm trying to make my marriage work. 

One thing that has come to light recently is the sexual urges my husband has. Like he really needs to carry out the sexual thoughts that pop in to his head, otherwise they drive him to distraction. Is this a common trait in autistic men? I'm currently trying to rebuild our marriage and have tried to spark conversation with him but he is already obsessing about sex, I've told him I would like to talk first, but he can't seem to focus on anything but sex. 

Any advice? Should I just give in and cater for his needs in hopes he will then be happy to talk/spend time with me? If I hold off is he likely to not be able to focus his mind to hold a conversation with me? 

Let me know your thoughts 

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  • Autistic guy here. When my brain locks onto sex, talking feels impossible until I reset. What helped us was structure: we do talk first for 10 minutes with a timer, then decide, if I’m still buzzing, I handle it solo and come back. Scheduling sex days cut pressure. You don’t have to give in each time, the key is him respecting your no and using other outlets.

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  • Autistic guy here. When my brain locks onto sex, talking feels impossible until I reset. What helped us was structure: we do talk first for 10 minutes with a timer, then decide, if I’m still buzzing, I handle it solo and come back. Scheduling sex days cut pressure. You don’t have to give in each time, the key is him respecting your no and using other outlets.

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