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Too much social demands

NAS10958

Does any one else get really anxious and overwhelmed by social demands? 

I was diagnosed with autism in 2014 and lately social demands have grew even more with outreach support during this lockdown well I feel it has

I'm meant to go out twice a week, on a Monday and Thursday and it's become way too much for me to cope with

I feel I can't tell them cause they will phone up and I really dislike phone calls 

I've mentioned it to social worker since she asked if outreach is going alright

I feel like I need a break from it all, they often forget I'm actually autistic and can easily become overwhelmed and anxious at any time 

How does everyone else deal with social demands? 

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  • I deal with social demands....by making sure I have 0. I've really felt the need to hunker down lately. I plan on getting outside & walking around, but that's about it. I go outside to collect amazon packages---that's about it lol. Just listen to your times of needing to go "in your shell" and not....it's an intuitive process & think too often, we our taught by society that social interaction....more of it, more often is a good thing....when it's not for some.

  • in reply to TheLoneWolf

    Okay I will listen to myself I really need to be in my shell as you described it 

    Others may think its unhealthy but I think its what I need for me to feel alright again 

  • in reply to NAS10958

    Yes! People who are like you understand.....and will wait patiently until you come out. Any prodding or forcing just results in me taking longer. I get stressed calling on the phone, although Ilove talking to my mom. If there's not any pressure to "have to call" I do it more often. Here's an interesting video....I've heard it described that we are constantly walking a tightrope of balance between being our AUTHENTIC selves and our ATTACHMENTS (relationships/people in our life). I really feel this is true....I will do things other wants/to please people in the past, just to have a metldown/shutdown that I already knew was coming. You know what you need above all others--I struggle with listening to that & get really mad at myself when I don't listen to me lol.

  • in reply to TheLoneWolf

    Ah I can't find the link? Would love to watch it! My mom is also my go-to for exercising my vocal chords, but anyone else I struggle with. And definitely NO phone calls, I hate them!

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