Too much social demands

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????? Yo, Is this advertising? I don't mean to be rude...just odd that this person w/0 info on their profile & posted this. Do autistic people love Subway? Are we part of your target market? If you're a real person & just wanted to put this on here so I could get a free cookie/fountain drink-I thank you. But if not, advertising is not cool....I purposefully keep advertising to 0. I get bombarded enough trying to read an article with 50 flashing things at me giving me vertigo.

Six-Inch, with extra Spam, please!

Haha, I love that image! And definitely the same with me...My spirit animals!

I like dogs.   I prefer their way of thinking .    I've found that dogs hunt me out - almost like "You seem calm & sensible - protect from these morons!"

Quite often in a pub beer garden that lets dogs roam around  I end up with a pack of sleeping dogs at my feet.

people seem to think they can cure us .if we go into a crowded place it is good for us ,we will somehow get used to it or something .

They just don't get it . Just do what feels right for you .

I think this is a really good way to put it and I agree wholeheartedly!

Ah I can't find the link? Would love to watch it! My mom is also my go-to for exercising my vocal chords, but anyone else I struggle with. And definitely NO phone calls, I hate them!

Haha, definitely with you on the dog front. I will always hunt down the pet at a party... An ex partner once took me to a party to meet his friends, he found me several hours later in the dog basket with Kev the greyhound. I was much happier there!

Your on an autistic website. Of course!. I have ASD myself and I just don't respond to any social demands. I know I cannot handle more than a couple of people Im very used to and extremely comfortable with and thats it. I don't even think about anything else. Don't do anything that makes you uncomfortable and just be yourself. If you don't want to do something don't do it. If people really care about you they will accept that and interact with you in ways that are more suitable for you. If they don't you don't really want to socialise with them anyway and you aren't missing anything.

Here's the video on authenticity vs attachment.....I found it really helpful to explain the struggle between self-care and what others wants/expect of me.

I LOVE this. Dogs are so much better than humans or maybe it's that humans would be better, if they just acted honestly/genuinely like dogs lol. Is anyone else's anxiety relieved when they see a dog at a party? I'm like, "thank gad."

Yes! People who are like you understand.....and will wait patiently until you come out. Any prodding or forcing just results in me taking longer. I get stressed calling on the phone, although Ilove talking to my mom. If there's not any pressure to "have to call" I do it more often. Here's an interesting video....I've heard it described that we are constantly walking a tightrope of balance between being our AUTHENTIC selves and our ATTACHMENTS (relationships/people in our life). I really feel this is true....I will do things other wants/to please people in the past, just to have a metldown/shutdown that I already knew was coming. You know what you need above all others--I struggle with listening to that & get really mad at myself when I don't listen to me lol.

but do u have to do it ? or can u say "no thanks"

Thank you for replies everyone they was very helpful

I said how I felt to my social worker and she sent email to day centre manager saying for me to have a break till may 

I used to force myself into social interactions because of societal pressures, but lockdown has provided the respite I needed to realise that mingling just isn't good for my own mental state. It's given me a chance to realise that I am so much happier alone with my dog! I still go out for walks, but with my headphones on & no social interaction. I've stopped caring about what society wants, my own happiness is more important. As long as not socialising doesn't also lead to you being overwhelmed, acting on your discomfort sounds like it would be good for you. 

Its support workers taking me out really not me supporting someone else 

Okay I will listen to myself I really need to be in my shell as you described it 

Others may think its unhealthy but I think its what I need for me to feel alright again 

I like to be out and about, but not all day. So, this Lockdown is even more challenging, for me.

If left to my own devices, I'd blow all my money on online shopping and takeaway deliveries. It's filling the 'God-shaped hole' Blaise Pascal talked about.