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Obessive emailing

Ang93

Does anyone else have a problem with obsessive emailing?

When I send an email, I experience deep anxiety about what I've said and whether the person will reply or not.

This usually results in my sending more emails to try and correct what I've said or seek reassurance from the person I'm emailing.

I can spend hours doing nothing, lying in my bed, obsessing over whether the person will reply. 

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  • I work in an industry where humans are regularly ghosted. It took me years to adjust.  But I also look back on my terrible ability to communicate and... breathe. When the consequence involves finances, it matters. Other wise, I assume others also have a million emails to go through and want to spend time with their family. And want to read a book. And want to also have a life. When it involves money and I've not heard back, I might wait a month and email again. I give it 3 goes. I strategise. I spend hours on emails. I have hundreds of drafts. Thinking in matters of consequence or priority has been incredibly helpful. When in doubt I don't send, I'll problem solve something else - philosophy, a piece of software, sudoku. redirecting all of this obsessing also helps. 

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  • I work in an industry where humans are regularly ghosted. It took me years to adjust.  But I also look back on my terrible ability to communicate and... breathe. When the consequence involves finances, it matters. Other wise, I assume others also have a million emails to go through and want to spend time with their family. And want to read a book. And want to also have a life. When it involves money and I've not heard back, I might wait a month and email again. I give it 3 goes. I strategise. I spend hours on emails. I have hundreds of drafts. Thinking in matters of consequence or priority has been incredibly helpful. When in doubt I don't send, I'll problem solve something else - philosophy, a piece of software, sudoku. redirecting all of this obsessing also helps. 

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