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Obessive emailing

Ang93

Does anyone else have a problem with obsessive emailing?

When I send an email, I experience deep anxiety about what I've said and whether the person will reply or not.

This usually results in my sending more emails to try and correct what I've said or seek reassurance from the person I'm emailing.

I can spend hours doing nothing, lying in my bed, obsessing over whether the person will reply. 

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  • This is something I'm not really understanding - I don't think my e-mails contain anything but data so I can't imagine a scenario where I would worry about the content - and as it's likely going to my aspie friends, I doubt they'd ever take offence.

    What sort of subjects cause you stress?

  • in reply to Plastic

    I get stressed when emailing my counsellor. She has recently ended our sessions, it was unexpected for me. I find myself obsessively emailing her looking for reassurance and ways to cope with the situation 

    This is just one example though. I have a long history of obsessively looking for reassurance, I suppose emails is one way through which I look for it 

  • in reply to Ang93

    That's an awkward one - it's all going to be about feelings and needs so it's quite easy to be accidentally seen as needy or controlling.    Without knowing your relationship with your counsellor, it's very hard for me to offer any suggestions.

    I have a psychologist with whom I speak every now and then - I normally e-mail her first with a status update and a brief list of things I'm having problems with so she can prepare herself for when we chat on the phone a few days later..

  • in reply to Plastic

    Yes you are right, I do believe I may be coming across as this. It's not how I want to come across. It's difficult when you live alone and you have an obsessive need for reassurance like I do! Hopefully I can learn to control it over time. 

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