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Autism and sexual desire

NAS72060

I wondered wether there’s something in being on the autism spectrum and having reduced sexual desire-not come across anything in my reading yet so wondered what people’s experiences are? Oh and asking as a woman too. Thanks

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  • This has always been a difficult one for me. I have always had a particularly high drive, more than most people I think. However, as an autie I always had difficulty understanding when girls liked me or not. I would misunderstand that quite a bit and it was difficult for me, caused me a lot of problems.

    I am happily married now so the issue doesnt arrise but I think single life is difficult when your autistic 

  • in reply to Billy87
    Billy87 said:
    difficulty understanding when girls liked me or not.

    I think this is one of the problems I have. As I've had no contact with women except for platonic friendships and even they are making me frustrated. Whenever I think a woman is interested in me and I pluck up the courage to say something which may take weeks, they always give me a negative response. 

    I also have a small rule: I wouldn't do something to someone which I wouldn't like done to myself. Friday just gone I showed that I was interested in a girl. She was in the same predicament as me, never had a partner or sex and only 2 years younger than me. I ended up leaving it there because I felt she was my last resort. I wouldn't like it if I was a last resort

    Another thing, being 55 years old (56 in a few days time) and having no experience I am scared of starting a relationship and having sex  

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  • in reply to Billy87
    Billy87 said:
    difficulty understanding when girls liked me or not.

    I think this is one of the problems I have. As I've had no contact with women except for platonic friendships and even they are making me frustrated. Whenever I think a woman is interested in me and I pluck up the courage to say something which may take weeks, they always give me a negative response. 

    I also have a small rule: I wouldn't do something to someone which I wouldn't like done to myself. Friday just gone I showed that I was interested in a girl. She was in the same predicament as me, never had a partner or sex and only 2 years younger than me. I ended up leaving it there because I felt she was my last resort. I wouldn't like it if I was a last resort

    Another thing, being 55 years old (56 in a few days time) and having no experience I am scared of starting a relationship and having sex  

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  • in reply to NAS75968

    I can undestand how you feel like that. I didnt even kiss a girl till I was 22 and even then she only did it for a bet. 
    I can imagine its frustrating but theres nothing wrong with not having sex. When I started having sex i used it as a defence mechanism and had quite an unhealthy relationship with it.

    I admire you for having that rule in life and how you treated that girl. the right woman could still be out there for you, your never too old. and if you find someone you are comfortable with she will understand your lack of experience with relationships 

  • in reply to NAS75968

    Why did she feel like your last resort?!