Hi all, I just really need some advice I have been with my partner for 9 months and they have been diagnosed officially as being autistic. I have no issue with him being autistic at all is the associated behaviour that goes with it..
I have had to change a lot of my habits to accommodate theirs, as they have rituals and only do things a certain way. They constantly put down my son because he is a very sensitive child as he lives with me full time. I have suffered from depression for over 15 years and this is constantly threw in my face that my depression is the fault of everything ( I had been off all medications before I met them even after my mum passing away 9 months previous) they constantly talk down to me and make me constantly apologise because my depression is that bad and that I bring it all on myself.
I am currently on a rota of nights as a key worker and I suffer from insomnia at times and all I get if I say if I’m tired is “you’ve been in bed all day.. get up and do something” and that tiredness will not be accepted as an excuse
this is part of a message I received
I'm planning ways to actively avoid time around you as..I'd love to do something for you on Mother's day but the way I've been made feel make that impossible and I went out of my way to make sure I won't be seeing you.. But we aren't and that's difficult cause I want to help but I can't because I don't feel you deserve it which is bad. But she's never treated me the way you have and boy did me and her have issues
i feel like I’m constantly being punished and put down and called names like stupid/idiot etc or compared to ex partners and I don’t know if this is part of being autistic or not but I’m at the end of the line and I can’t cope anymore
I just need advice on if this is a normal occurrence
