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Doubting Myself/Identity Crisis

Jess

Hello,

my question is... do other people’s comments saying you’re not autistic affect your confidence ? Do you ever feel not autistic enough?

I am a 24 year old Female living in Kent. I Was diagnosed 2 years ago with level 1 autism spectrum disorder (I was in a fortunate enough position to be able to pay and go private) and for me it was a sigh of relief to have finally found what was ‘wrong’ with me. My partner and my parents also felt that it just made sense.

I had a therapist recently who really picked on me for my diagnosis and he made me feel bad for paying to go private and basically felt that I was a liar and asked to see my diagnosis report... this still really bothers me and it’s completely knocked my confidence when it comes to talking about my personal autistic experience. 

Ive masked pretty much my whole life (sometimes I even wonder who I am lol) and I don’t ‘look’ autistic whatever the hell that means, I have a good job, boyfriend and a friend...

has anyone else experienced something similar ? 

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  • No I think its the dunning kruger effect in action. People who either know another autistic person/have a child often think they are experts and know more than they do. It slips past them that its a spectrum and they just know one or two autistic people out of the whole spectrum thats it. I cook and eat food doesn't make me a chef and a food critic. One of the things that I think autistic people (at least the ones I've met : ) ) don't have is a capacity to bullshit themselves that they know more about something than they do. NT have that capacity in spades.  If you got diagnosed by a trained, qualified professional who has diagnosed hundreds of people and who the government actually pays to check whether someone is autistic or not listen to them and not someone with an autistic child or who's mate is autistic. Theyre armchair clinicians who should keep their opinions to themselves.

  • in reply to NAS71674

    Not being able to convince myself of exaggerations about my capabilities is definitely a downfall of mine. Other 'successful' (I use this word loosely) people around me are often far more useless than they would ever admit. I see many people senior to me as frauds who don't really work hard but have convinced someone somewhere of their fake capability. 

    I am of the view that a manager should be one of the best at doing the job of those that they are managing, otherwise how can they lead by example?

  • in reply to M

    You've hit the nail on the head and I totally agree with you. 

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