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Friendship talk

Wizza mouse

Hi everyone

I have a friend. Who's great, but I find it very hard. 

When there's certain times things don't get read or acknowledged bye her. 

I get very frustrated with it. 

I've been diagnosed with autism for a year now. 

Anyone else experience this? 

Thanks Lizzy

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  • Hi Lizzy! What kind of friend is she? 

    I've discovered all relationships involve an investment. As such I've put individuals into a respective 'location' in my solar system. I like this analogy. It may seem silly but it helps me work out what to expect and how much to invest. I pretend I'm the sun and ask where someone is in my 'orbit' or how close they are. I have 2 friends who are like Mercury. And a few more between Mars and Venus. There are people I know who I work with out toward Pluto and some who come in and out of my life like satellites. Haha. Kinda strange but oddly helpful.

    I know I can be confusing for others when they cannot see all the connexions I'm making in thought while I'm speaking. So I don't share much or if I do I don't expect much in return for individuals I'm not very close to. NT Friends might smile on the outside but be frozen for response if it's confusing or overwhelming. Just as I can be confused and overwhelmed about social expectations and also freeze up. We're all a little limited... 

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  • Hi Lizzy! What kind of friend is she? 

    I've discovered all relationships involve an investment. As such I've put individuals into a respective 'location' in my solar system. I like this analogy. It may seem silly but it helps me work out what to expect and how much to invest. I pretend I'm the sun and ask where someone is in my 'orbit' or how close they are. I have 2 friends who are like Mercury. And a few more between Mars and Venus. There are people I know who I work with out toward Pluto and some who come in and out of my life like satellites. Haha. Kinda strange but oddly helpful.

    I know I can be confusing for others when they cannot see all the connexions I'm making in thought while I'm speaking. So I don't share much or if I do I don't expect much in return for individuals I'm not very close to. NT Friends might smile on the outside but be frozen for response if it's confusing or overwhelming. Just as I can be confused and overwhelmed about social expectations and also freeze up. We're all a little limited... 

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  • in reply to JuniperFromGallifrey

    Hi juniper

    She is a long time friend, not bf because I choose not to call her that. Lol at. 

    No that makes sense, because it's gd to do that, rather than get hurt. 

    It's looks confusing but it actually makes sense to me, the way you put people. 

    I try not to depend on my friends to much but that's because of a lot of reasons. Im still trying to get the hang of adjusting to all this. 

    There two friends Iam more involved with than my third. 3 is enough for me to deal with.lol at. 

    Yes they do and that's what is definitely difficult to tell with this one at times. 

    You have an excellent way of doing things and at a I know I don't know you than your help here. Iam happy it's a way that works. 

    Iam still trying to find mine. Lol Laughing. 

    Thank you so very much for you help. It's appreciated.