Friendship talk

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aidie hi now that I did not release, because of also have other mental diffcults I don't release things very quick. 

But that's does make sense what you say, because it's does seem like they are being more so in this one friend. 

On my side anyway. Here not so sure. 

They defo don't seem conscious to my mind. So it seems I will have to try even harder at this being flexible stuff. 

Thank you so much for your help it's much appreciated. 

Hi juniper

She is a long time friend, not bf because I choose not to call her that. Lol at. 

No that makes sense, because it's gd to do that, rather than get hurt. 

It's looks confusing but it actually makes sense to me, the way you put people. 

I try not to depend on my friends to much but that's because of a lot of reasons. Im still trying to get the hang of adjusting to all this. 

There two friends Iam more involved with than my third. 3 is enough for me to deal with.lol at. 

Yes they do and that's what is definitely difficult to tell with this one at times. 

You have an excellent way of doing things and at a I know I don't know you than your help here. Iam happy it's a way that works. 

Iam still trying to find mine. Lol . 

Thank you so very much for you help. It's appreciated. 

Hi 

No what you say makes sense's. 

I know you understand, what I mean etc. Yes I guess it most definitely is. 

I may have to ask her, like you say and see what happens answer wise. 

I can honestly say I would not get on with this person if she was normal. I can't do normal people they piss me off to much. But I know what you mean on the express side of communication. 

This is highly appreciated and thank you, so much. 

Hi Lizzy! What kind of friend is she? 

I've discovered all relationships involve an investment. As such I've put individuals into a respective 'location' in my solar system. I like this analogy. It may seem silly but it helps me work out what to expect and how much to invest. I pretend I'm the sun and ask where someone is in my 'orbit' or how close they are. I have 2 friends who are like Mercury. And a few more between Mars and Venus. There are people I know who I work with out toward Pluto and some who come in and out of my life like satellites. Haha. Kinda strange but oddly helpful.

I know I can be confusing for others when they cannot see all the connexions I'm making in thought while I'm speaking. So I don't share much or if I do I don't expect much in return for individuals I'm not very close to. NT Friends might smile on the outside but be frozen for response if it's confusing or overwhelming. Just as I can be confused and overwhelmed about social expectations and also freeze up. We're all a little limited... 

we autistics, have "rules" and "expected behaviours" set by our mind. Our autistic mind can be very inflexible. Non-autistics minds have more flexibility and so dont always do as we autistics expect, leading to angst for the autistic mind.  I have learnt to be more flexible and less rigid and to ignore my pre-set rules. Sometimes the rules arent even conscious so you have to beware the rules can be deep in your mind.

this may be just me  

I understand that, I’m autistic aswell I think it is something we may just have to get used to often non-autistics don’t get us and we don’t get them we just don’t communicate or express ways in which we show friendship the same as each other and it can be hard I know maybe she doesn’t know that she isn’t acknowledging you perhaps for her she thinks she is but for you, you need confirmation that she is acknowledging you perhaps you could ask her if she does acknowledge your presence and friendship if she says yes maybe you might have to come to terms with the fact that maybe you can’t tell, maybe ask her if she could verbally acknowledge you more (sorry if none of that makes sense)

It's a difficult situation, Mytwenty

Yes I've tried that. Yet it does not seem to stick. 

Thanks for the suggestion. 

She could be busy? Have you tried sharing your concerns with her?