Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello!
I'm a 21 year old female and have just begun my route to getting diagnosed.
I have identified with so many of the adult traits of ASD such as:
I read that to be diagnosed you need to have shown symptoms by age 2/3. I've spoken to my parents as as a young kid I developed without a lot of these. I starting speaking early, responded to smiles, responded to my name, didnt struggle to communicate needs and didnt have any repetitive movements. I had a couple of occasions where I said inappropriate things to people in public but I was taught that these were wrong and I wasn't allowed to say those things to people. When I started primary school, I had no issues talking to people but struggled making good friends, hung out more with boys and played make believe. I was constantly called 'gifted', 'bright' and clever. Plus I was the teacher's pet of every teacher I had. I found it much easier to talk to adults that to kids my own age and this was true until I became an adult myself. I do remember having some attachments to inanimate objects when I was young. There was one piece of suede that I loved when I was about 5 and I lost it in ASDA. I wandered off to find it, ending up crying a lot, finally found it and then found my family again.
When I started highschool is when everything got a lot worse and more noticeable. I'd always been called 'different' , 'odd' or 'weird'; even been bullied for it in primary school. However, it really started to affect me in highschool. It probably didn't help that it was an all girls grammar school as I find guys easier to understand and the grammar part put extra pressure on. In the first couple months I had terrible breakdowns about not fitting it. Struggling to read motives and facial expressions, I always thought the 'popular' girls were being mean and that made me feel more out of place. Mum recommended I watched some teen shows to gain confidence but what I actually did was pick up mannerisms, phrases etc. It was also during highschool that I learnt that I struggled to maintain eye contact. I always had to force it.
[Something I should also note is that I got diagnosed with Dyslexia in school. This got picked up only at A level as I'd always gotten good grades]
At 16 ish I was diagnosed with social anxiety disorder. It caused me to get really depressed and withdrawn. I've had treatment for it and its gotten a lot better but its still there. Now in uni, where socialising is at its extreme, I've really noticed how much it exhausts me. Especially in a shared uni house where I dont have my own space to have a social hangover. In second year I would often starve until about 3pm; staying in bed as long as possible to avoid people. At uni I struggle hard to care for myself (cooking, cleaning etc) and this doesn't help. They were lovely housemates but I never got to recharge. It all contributed to me being really suicidal about a year ago and the first lockdown forced me to come home. It was the best thing for me and could have saved my life.
This isn't everything but its an overview of me and my journey. Sorry if its a bit long.
Here are my test scores in case it helps
Thank you so much in advance to anyone who responds
Very good description of something similar to my path in life. Being weird can be something to enjoy, but you have to get to like yourself. Get married to yourself and look after yourself forevermore