You can be as upset as you want to be towards those individuals who have abused you and done those bad things towards you, and that is understandable. But what is not is if you apply those same bad perceptions and project them towards every single person you encounter, because you won't really get to know anyone if you do that. You'll just see everyone as enemies everywhere you go. How would you get the support you need if you're in a combative mode all the time? This combative nature might be a coping mechanism to protect yourself, but it's not going to be helpful for attracting the support you need in your life.
Also, many people will not be able to handle the gravity of other people's trauma, and even if you tell them a bad thing that happened, they won't know what to say, they'll blank out, they won't want to say the wrong thing, give you the wrong advice, or (like you've experienced) they will not care about it, which will be hurtful and adds towards the trauma. They're not trained on how to handle people who's gone through trauma. That's why there's therapists and psychologists, who make it their job and mission in life to study these kinds of things, in order to help people with what they know, and maybe it could be beneficial if you talked to a professional about your trauma.
I will look into seeing a private therapist but know from having had NHS therapists they haven't helped me. As for being combative, I have noticed here that other people get more responses than me, and I get ignored a lot.
Sometimes people are combative, sometimes that's part of how things go, otherwise they'd get walked all over.
I will look into seeing a private therapist but know from having had NHS therapists they haven't helped me. As for being combative, I have noticed here that other people get more responses than me, and I get ignored a lot.
Sometimes people are combative, sometimes that's part of how things go, otherwise they'd get walked all over.
