Published on 12, July, 2020
I was diagnosed with Aspergers a few weeks ago (at 40 years old). During the assessment I was amazed when the specialist explained how most NTs would have answered the questions and how different that is from how I think. The adaptive strategies we develop allow us to pass as NT but the thought processes behind the actions are so different! I recently read that NTs typically maintain eye contact 50 - 70% of the time during conversation and this blew my mind. I am really interested to hear other people's thoughts and experiences of atypyical thinking in social contexts. I'm planning to get some specialist counselling to help me think through it all but I'd love to hear other lived experiences. Thanks!
I totally get this. Honesty is a huge thing for me. I have been caught out so many times when people ask for my honest opinion and then get upset/angry because it's not what they want to hear.
I used to do that too but quickly learnt not to to save myself alot of trouble. I learnt this as an adult :) Instead of telling them what they want to hear (I generally don't know what that is anyway, something positive maybe?) I say nothing. If you can't say nothing good say nothing at all. Usually the truth is obvious anyway it doesn't need said.