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New to the forum, seeking assessment advice

GuybrushThreepwood

Hi everyone, sorry if this is asked a lot but the search function doesn’t work particularly well on my phone! I usually just make my way through life without much thought about what goes on in my brain (even though I’ve suspected for quite a long time that I may have Aspergers or something similar) Recently it seems to be more at the forefront of my mind even though I’m not particularly sure why! I’m female in my mid 30’s, married with one child, I have a good job so not sure if an assessment is actually worth pursuing? I’ve taken some of the online tests I’ve scored AQ 26 (was closer to 30 when I first took it at uni 5-10 years back, wasn’t official the neurology students had taken one whilst learning about autism and were a bit ‘freaked’ by scoring in double figures, although they were still well in “normal” range), EQ 16 which was actually quite a surprise that it was that low despite my lack of feelings, I tend to think about things I’m worried about but with little emotional attachment if that makes sense and SQ 49. I generally haven’t ever really felt like I’ve properly fitted in with people but have a couple of close friends but only speak to them occasionally. I’m feeling a bit closer to my colleagues now I have common ground of being a parent but don’t really have any “proper” friends there. There’s quite a bit more but don’t want to turn this into a massive long post! Does the assessment and diagnosis process actually make a difference in your daily life? Have I left it too late and should just carry on as I tick most of the boxes to be deemed successful at life? Thanks for reading Slight smile

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  • I'm 39 and currently awaiting the assessment now. Some are older. At the end of the day, it's your choice to see if it will be worth your time to go through with the assessment. For me, I find it impacts on how I function at work and at home. I've always found that whatever I've attempted has not quite reached and I didn't know why. I'm not waiting for the assessment to make use of the things I've learned about Autism as they have already helped me to make more sense of why I do things and how I make sense of situations. Particularly where it can help me avoid unnecessary anxiety and stress.

    Women are also less likely to be diagnosed so it certainly helps to build the understanding if more of us are being assessed. But it can be stressful. It takes time or expense depending on whether you go through NHS or private. You may not get the answer you expect. 

    If you haven't already, I'd do some additional reading. I like Rudy Simone 'Aspergirls' and Cynthia Kim 'Nerdy, Shy and socially inapropriate'. Both are from the perspective of woman on the spectrum, Rudy Simone also includes other woman and also a helpful chart that you could take to the GP if you decided to go through with the assessment. 

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  • I'm 39 and currently awaiting the assessment now. Some are older. At the end of the day, it's your choice to see if it will be worth your time to go through with the assessment. For me, I find it impacts on how I function at work and at home. I've always found that whatever I've attempted has not quite reached and I didn't know why. I'm not waiting for the assessment to make use of the things I've learned about Autism as they have already helped me to make more sense of why I do things and how I make sense of situations. Particularly where it can help me avoid unnecessary anxiety and stress.

    Women are also less likely to be diagnosed so it certainly helps to build the understanding if more of us are being assessed. But it can be stressful. It takes time or expense depending on whether you go through NHS or private. You may not get the answer you expect. 

    If you haven't already, I'd do some additional reading. I like Rudy Simone 'Aspergirls' and Cynthia Kim 'Nerdy, Shy and socially inapropriate'. Both are from the perspective of woman on the spectrum, Rudy Simone also includes other woman and also a helpful chart that you could take to the GP if you decided to go through with the assessment. 

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