explaining to my employer

its good to hear you are working and doing a pretty tough job. As an amateur,,  I advise you keep doing as best you can at work  until you get a diagnosis or get better advice, because no one here knows the details of your work contract, (if you have one).

If you are religious, lean heavily on your religion and use it to tide you over until u get a diagnosis. eg (prey for all those you work with good or bad  ) 

If you have time call into your local CAB ( Citizens Advice Bureau ) and check out you the legal side of declaring yourself as autistic, either,

1. now ( called "self declaring" )  or

2. later with a diagnosis   

in your region and with your work contract.

but otherwise, keep up the good work  you are doing so well holding down a job

Thank you for your reply. That's a thought, I would like to pray more for colleagues. I don't really see them as good or bad, I can understand how someone who forgets where a room is must be frustrating and people don't want to work with me. I have a six month contract and I don't expect it to be renewed, but I'm used to that :-) That's a great idea to consider the legal side of declaring :-)

Hi, whatnots2015: 

I just want to warmly echo aidie’s wise and kind words and send you lots of support and encouragement. I have found that in workplaces the people who mistreat those were different or make occasional mistakes are the most insecure workers, those who do not pursue doing their best and often have middling skills. They are usually aware of that, too, on at least a subconscious level.

If it is possible to maintain a positive attitude and ignore coworkers who have mistreated you, that simple act of ignoring, with of course the caveat that you need to do what you do to work with them, can send them a strong signal about your healthy confidence and their lack of power or influence over you.

I would gently agree that disclosing prior to diagnosis is not necessarily a great idea, because you do not have the formal paperwork to back you up. I wish it wasn’t the case, but in this day and age, particularly in non-government, non-education or social services type workplaces, autism awareness appears to be quite low.

I think an exception to not disclosing pre-diagnosis would be if you simply could not carry on in your work, internally in your own mind and heart, without disclosing now. If you did so, then you would be taking a risk, but I think our wellness is priority one. 

I’m sending you lots of support,

Elizabeth

Hi, whatnots2015: 

I just want to warmly echo aidie’s wise and kind words and send you lots of support and encouragement. I have found that in workplaces the people who mistreat those were different or make occasional mistakes are the most insecure workers, those who do not pursue doing their best and often have middling skills. They are usually aware of that, too, on at least a subconscious level.

If it is possible to maintain a positive attitude and ignore coworkers who have mistreated you, that simple act of ignoring, with of course the caveat that you need to do what you do to work with them, can send them a strong signal about your healthy confidence and their lack of power or influence over you.

I would gently agree that disclosing prior to diagnosis is not necessarily a great idea, because you do not have the formal paperwork to back you up. I wish it wasn’t the case, but in this day and age, particularly in non-government, non-education or social services type workplaces, autism awareness appears to be quite low.

I think an exception to not disclosing pre-diagnosis would be if you simply could not carry on in your work, internally in your own mind and heart, without disclosing now. If you did so, then you would be taking a risk, but I think our wellness is priority one. 

I’m sending you lots of support,

Elizabeth