Friends

Those people were not your friends - they were just hanging around until something better came along - and they will treat everyone in their lives the same way - they are not being any different because of your character.

I'm an old fart and I have found auties/aspies everywhere where there are people who are experts in something - specialists in their fields or groups of people into things like history or science.

The perfect way to show this is on tv - "Salvage Hunters - The Restorers".   All of the restorers are so clearly Asperger's - they have all found their niche and so are comfortable in their lives  - the glass blowing couple and the young girl repairing lights are amazing.      They  are in an environment where anyone who wants to talk to them will start the conversations all about the 'thing' that needs to be fixed - that immediately puts the ball in their court and with their favourite subject so if the conversation gets too far out of control, it can be easily brought back to the original theme.

You just need to find your 'thing' where you just slot in to find people just like you.    Look at your childhood interests and find the 'grown-up' version like Lego or dressing up (CosPlay) and I'm sure you'll find people who *get you* and like to spend time with you.

I've found fellow aspies/auties to be the most loyal and honest friends you can have.

Plastic said:

I've found fellow aspies/auties to be the most loyal and honest friends you can have.

Hi, Katrina: 

I just wanted to chime in and say I absolutely agree with what Plastic said about aspies and aunties being the most loyal friends. Although we can have wonderful friends who are not like we are, if we are able to find even one friend who also has Asperger Syndrome, our entire social lives can open up.

I have found that to be the case with my adult cousin who also has Asperger’s. Between the two of us, we are able to have hour long talks daily by telephone and feel understood, heard, respected, cared for, and intellectually engaged!

If you are able to watch for them, Katrina, you will be able to meet people with Asperger’s syndrome, particularly if you join support groups for people who have it. I can’t speak for anyone else, but I know that I am always open to making friends with people I meet in those groups!

For what it’s worth, please consider us here to be your friends. We are here for you! 

Elizabeth

Plastic said:

I've found fellow aspies/auties to be the most loyal and honest friends you can have.

Hi, Katrina: 

I just wanted to chime in and say I absolutely agree with what Plastic said about aspies and aunties being the most loyal friends. Although we can have wonderful friends who are not like we are, if we are able to find even one friend who also has Asperger Syndrome, our entire social lives can open up.

I have found that to be the case with my adult cousin who also has Asperger’s. Between the two of us, we are able to have hour long talks daily by telephone and feel understood, heard, respected, cared for, and intellectually engaged!

If you are able to watch for them, Katrina, you will be able to meet people with Asperger’s syndrome, particularly if you join support groups for people who have it. I can’t speak for anyone else, but I know that I am always open to making friends with people I meet in those groups!

For what it’s worth, please consider us here to be your friends. We are here for you! 

Elizabeth

Thank you that means a lot. I'm not sure how to find fellow people (apart from on this website). I don't really go out and find it really hard to trust people anyway (for this very reason I'm talking about).