Relationship Troubles

ive been arguing with my boyfriend pretty much every weekend for a good few months, and i nearly ended things because of it. he just doesn’t understand, and last week i tried to call the assessment place i’ve been referred to, and was told i could be waiting another year, and he didn’t understand how important for my mental health this assessment is. living in confusion is hard and he’s just not getting it which frustrates me a lot, but we’re working through it, i just hope he keeps open minded for me. so yeah, i completely understand where you’re coming from, i hope you’re okay x

Thanks for sharing that, Jade. I’m glad you guys are able to work on things, but I know that can be tough.

I hope things go alright for you as you are waiting for the results of your assessment. For what it’s worth, the more that I talk to people the more it seems that if they take a variety of the online autism tests and do reading related to autism and recognize themselves, they are highly likely to receive a diagnosis of autism. The assessment process features a great deal at the exact same questions that are found in those online tests, for example.

For what it’s worth, some advice I would share regarding going through the assessment process is to be extremely honest in answering all questions, regardless of how “bad“ or “cold“ or “messed up“ you might think it makes you appear.

I found that I answered the test questions and replied to the interview questions in ways I would not have done even one month prior, because I had realized ahead of time that I would need to be extraordinarily honest with myself and with my clinician about my true feelings and my true preferred behaviours, when I wasn’t masking and camouflaging.

My impression in talking to my psychologist is that, especially for women, it’s common to go into the assessment process and minimize or even omit mentioning their true feelings and behaviours. By not doing that, I was able to emerge from the assessment process with the feeling that the result reflected who I am – not who I have worked over two decades to appear to be.

I hope you’ll keep us posted about how things go when you’re being assessed, should you be so inclined.

Elisabeth

Thanks for sharing that, Jade. I’m glad you guys are able to work on things, but I know that can be tough.

I hope things go alright for you as you are waiting for the results of your assessment. For what it’s worth, the more that I talk to people the more it seems that if they take a variety of the online autism tests and do reading related to autism and recognize themselves, they are highly likely to receive a diagnosis of autism. The assessment process features a great deal at the exact same questions that are found in those online tests, for example.

For what it’s worth, some advice I would share regarding going through the assessment process is to be extremely honest in answering all questions, regardless of how “bad“ or “cold“ or “messed up“ you might think it makes you appear.

I found that I answered the test questions and replied to the interview questions in ways I would not have done even one month prior, because I had realized ahead of time that I would need to be extraordinarily honest with myself and with my clinician about my true feelings and my true preferred behaviours, when I wasn’t masking and camouflaging.

My impression in talking to my psychologist is that, especially for women, it’s common to go into the assessment process and minimize or even omit mentioning their true feelings and behaviours. By not doing that, I was able to emerge from the assessment process with the feeling that the result reflected who I am – not who I have worked over two decades to appear to be.

I hope you’ll keep us posted about how things go when you’re being assessed, should you be so inclined.

Elisabeth