• Replies 10 replies
  • Subscribers 84 subscribers
  • Views 3017 views
  • Users 0 members are here
Options
Related
Hints and tips
  • To quote someone's message, first select/highlight the relevant text, and then use the Quote button that appears
  • To "mention" someone, type @ followed by the start of the forum name, and choose from the list; that person will get a notification of being mentioned

Wish I’d known

NAS71122

Hi 

I’m now in my 50’s and have had an extremely hard life and have been very unsupported. 

i had bad health which has affected every part of my life, I didn’t attend school much which is why I fell through the cracks. 


my family didn’t really care and ignored my difficulties and pretty much laughed at my quirks (as did others)

ive not been able to hold down jobs and have found many things too hard and painful. 

Being given a diagnosis wouldn’t help me now but it would have made such a difference to me in so many ways. Everything would have been so different for me than it is now. 


I've been so wronged and this feeling just doesn’t go away. People don’t care and I’ve been told many times to just stop concentrating on it but it’s impossible. 

I’ve been so failed despite how hard I’ve tried to thrive, I’ve tried to find help so often but it’s been ignored and I’ve been fobbed off or told I just need to be more positive, stop complaining, be tougher and not so soft  Just be different, it’s not that hard be an adult.

Thank you  

Parents

  • I know this is is so much easier said than done, but try not to dwell too much on what could have been and instead move on with the knowledge you have now. 

    I do sometimes fall into that black hole myself. I get angry at my parents (who worked with children with special needs) for not seeing that I needed help, too. I get angry at my teachers with whom I spent several occasions crying because things were too hard and I had no friends. I get angry at my old manager who caused me so much pain through her constant telling me off for my social behaviour and personality (traits I now see as so clearly autistic).

    But most of the time I try not to think about it, as all it does is bringing me even more pain.

    Maybe, if your family/friends are not supportive, you could find a counsellor to talk things through with?

Reply

  • I know this is is so much easier said than done, but try not to dwell too much on what could have been and instead move on with the knowledge you have now. 

    I do sometimes fall into that black hole myself. I get angry at my parents (who worked with children with special needs) for not seeing that I needed help, too. I get angry at my teachers with whom I spent several occasions crying because things were too hard and I had no friends. I get angry at my old manager who caused me so much pain through her constant telling me off for my social behaviour and personality (traits I now see as so clearly autistic).

    But most of the time I try not to think about it, as all it does is bringing me even more pain.

    Maybe, if your family/friends are not supportive, you could find a counsellor to talk things through with?

Children
No Data