Personal space

I still live at home with my mum, and she has just dropped the major bombshell that her boyfriend needs to move in urgently because he can’t live in his current property anymore.

I am a complete anxious wreck about the whole thing for many reasons. I don’t want to go too much into some of the reasons, but the main one is that I really struggle with personal space. I struggle to live with anyone outside of my direct family because of this, and know that I will constantly feel on edge in my own home. Already when he comes over I avoid being in the same room as him because I don’t know him very well. Also, I really struggle with people interrupting my routine, e.g. if he was to be in the bathroom when I wanted to be. Additionally, I can’t cope with them being affectionate towards each other around me.

I already struggle being in a household the size it is already and I feel like adding someone else to the mix will really make me stressed, and with being in lockdown, and having nowhere else to go, I feel completely stuck.

Unfortunately, I’m currently jumping from temp to temp job so I am not in a position to move out and rent, but it feels like my mum isn’t really giving me an option here.

Please help me on what I can do to cope here.

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  • you have coped well with quite a bit, like uni for example, so I believe you will be able to cope with this rather major shift in your family life. Just keep saying "I am coping with everything just fine".  Thats from my positive thinking training. 

  • It’s so hard to feel like I can cope with this :( we are in lockdown, my home is my safe place and the only place I am allowed to be right now and I feel like that’s all being taken away...

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  • It’s so hard to feel like I can cope with this :( we are in lockdown, my home is my safe place and the only place I am allowed to be right now and I feel like that’s all being taken away...

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