Personal space

I still live at home with my mum, and she has just dropped the major bombshell that her boyfriend needs to move in urgently because he can’t live in his current property anymore.

I am a complete anxious wreck about the whole thing for many reasons. I don’t want to go too much into some of the reasons, but the main one is that I really struggle with personal space. I struggle to live with anyone outside of my direct family because of this, and know that I will constantly feel on edge in my own home. Already when he comes over I avoid being in the same room as him because I don’t know him very well. Also, I really struggle with people interrupting my routine, e.g. if he was to be in the bathroom when I wanted to be. Additionally, I can’t cope with them being affectionate towards each other around me.

I already struggle being in a household the size it is already and I feel like adding someone else to the mix will really make me stressed, and with being in lockdown, and having nowhere else to go, I feel completely stuck.

Unfortunately, I’m currently jumping from temp to temp job so I am not in a position to move out and rent, but it feels like my mum isn’t really giving me an option here.

Please help me on what I can do to cope here.

Parents
  • Damn I feel for you I can’t stand any kind of change at home do you get on with him? 

  • I don’t really know him well at all - only what my mum tells me about him. He keeps himself to himself, which in some ways is good because I hate small talk, but makes it hard for me to build any sort of trust. 

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  • I don’t really know him well at all - only what my mum tells me about him. He keeps himself to himself, which in some ways is good because I hate small talk, but makes it hard for me to build any sort of trust. 

Children
  • Thank you so much for responding anyway. That would be great!

  • Well I’m not the best person to give advice since I’m a 35 year old who still lives with his parents Grimacing I’m sure someone will have better advice but you can always talk to me about thingsSlight smile