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Dating someone on the spectrum when I’m not?

NAS71027

Hello,

Recently I met a guy who I think is on the spectrum, his friend mentioned it but the topic was changed and I don’t want to ask him outright, but I think he is. Is it okay for someone who isn’t on the spectrum to date someone who is? How will the relationship be different to dating someone who isn’t on the spectrum and is there anything I should keep in mind? He asked me out to dinner and he’s so sweet, my friends think “he’s weird” and are telling me to back away but he is gorgeous and we’ve been talking for a few days, I’m really enjoying it. I guess I’d like to hear from someone on the spectrum and what their opinion is? I don’t want it to seem that I’m taking advantage of him. 

I really appreciate any replies so thank you so much in advance :) 

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  • Just try it! Love is alwYs a risk. Aspies can be very loyal, caring and loving. If you're worrying about taking advantage of him then clearly you're not!

    He'll be different, but don't pathologise it. I guess whatever you've learnt about the psychology of people isn't going to work, our psychology is different. It can look the same, like when we withdraw, but the reasons can be very different, like withdrawing cos we're overwhelmed by positive emotions that we can't handle cos they're so full on.

    Trust you're instinct, if you find yoyrself behaving differently than you would with other guys then trust that subconsciously you're doing the right thing. Just go for it, give it a whirl.

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  • Just try it! Love is alwYs a risk. Aspies can be very loyal, caring and loving. If you're worrying about taking advantage of him then clearly you're not!

    He'll be different, but don't pathologise it. I guess whatever you've learnt about the psychology of people isn't going to work, our psychology is different. It can look the same, like when we withdraw, but the reasons can be very different, like withdrawing cos we're overwhelmed by positive emotions that we can't handle cos they're so full on.

    Trust you're instinct, if you find yoyrself behaving differently than you would with other guys then trust that subconsciously you're doing the right thing. Just go for it, give it a whirl.

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