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Avoiding eye contact altogether in public

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My mother advised me it's best to avoid eye contact with people completely in public.

What are your thoughts on that?

I felt it was rude to do that but tried it while we were out in supermarkets shopping earlier on, and although it felt odd and somewhat ignorant, and also I missed seeing who was near me - in case I recognised someone or there was someone interesting to look at - I think I felt more calm and less overloaded in the way that can lead up to an Autistic meltdown.

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  • I'm happy that your Mum has given you advice. In my generation autism in girls wasn't a thing so I was often told throughout my childhood that I was rude because I was afraid to talk or look at people.

    I think meltdowns can depend on how you're feeling at the time. If it helps you feel more at ease do it. For me, every interaction is frightening incase I miscommunicate something but when I'm in a good mood I can engage with people quite easily. I love smiling underneath my mask in the shop and actually feel safer around people than I did pre coronavirus.

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  • I'm happy that your Mum has given you advice. In my generation autism in girls wasn't a thing so I was often told throughout my childhood that I was rude because I was afraid to talk or look at people.

    I think meltdowns can depend on how you're feeling at the time. If it helps you feel more at ease do it. For me, every interaction is frightening incase I miscommunicate something but when I'm in a good mood I can engage with people quite easily. I love smiling underneath my mask in the shop and actually feel safer around people than I did pre coronavirus.

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