Stating facts is negative?

I'm struggling with some NT interactions I've had recently.

I had a uni assignment where we had to reflect (which I'm awful at) on the process of producing the assignment. I was told that I was being negative against the university and my workplace because I stated that I couldn't find the image that I wanted. We could only use licensed images from our workplace or ones from a specific website and all the ones involved didn't display the disability in the way that the patient groups indicated they'd like their disability to be portrayed. I did write in the reflection that I was trying to be sensitive to the voice of patients but apparently it didn't come across.

Not worrying too much about that we had to post another reflection (see, hopeless) about our group learning experience. We are supposed to be in a group of 8 but we are already down at 7 (maybe someone dropped out?). There are 4 of us who consistently attend the group prep tutorials, one who has been ill and trying her best and of the other two one comes to the tutor led discussions where we're meant to present as a group and commandeers the room (it's virtual) talking about all her individual work and the other has only been to 1 or 2 tutorials since October (they're almost weekly), she's never been to prep. 

So I wrote that I found it hard because the attendance was so sporadic and there's a huge workload to split between a small number of people. 

The tutor emailed me to say that I should rewrite the reflection as it's negative, well my learning experience has been negative and everything is factual.

I don't get what they have against me telling the truth in these reflection pieces and I have hundreds more to do for the course. Am I supposed to lie? If I lie then can I even apply to register as a nurse at the end of this in good faith? Nurses shouldn't lie just to spare someone's feelings, particularly if it's going to put people at risk (like in the above would you want a nurse who skipped all her lessons in cardiac, respiratory and epilepsy? Because I wouldn't). 

At a bit of a loss really. 

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  • Thanks for that, I managed to copy and paste what you'd put. 

  • Yes please that would be really helpful.

    The university tell us to follow a model like "use Gibbs model to reflect on..." and I can find lots about Gibbs and his model but nothing that tells you what you should and shouldn't be writing. Well maybe it makes sense to a NT, I don't know. 

    I have noticed that someone from the tutor group forum has rewritten her reflection and put a comment apologising for being negative so it looks like she's got the same feedback? I know she's NT because when we studied autism she said she hadn't experienced it before. 

    Now I'm wondering if our tutor is just a bit sensitive since I don't appear to be the only "negative" person. 

    Anyone who knows me in real life says I'm a positive person, I get great feedback from patients even on really bad days. 

  • I wouldn't know, I haven't seen it,  but there is a style to them, and probably a marking scheme for the tutor.

    Sorry I just need to know if u want this text  on  "how to write a refection" or not ?

    just reply to me