Aspergers and negativity

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U have been helpful thank u I don't feel alone now in this experience coz amount times been took advantage my anxiety is out of control so I can't work anyway this is down to consequences not listening what traits I have if they learnt to understand and have patience things could of been very different x

You have just described my work coach. 

The people on the spectrum who do have jobs they don't get ignored they be listened to noone ever listen to me had it all my life didn't get diagnosed till 17 I suffered all through school coz I didn't understand NT learning teachers humiliated me iv never felt like I fit in the normal world what makes things worse Im non existent people wonder why I get so angry and wound up I have a voice but I don't feel like I'm really there.

There arseholes xx

Ellie B, I am and have been in the situation as you. I am now receiving help. Norfolk seems to be behind the rest of the country in assisting, supporting and understanding autism and mental health. I have been mistreated in multiple workplaces because of my autism and had the exact same issues you have described.

Are you currently unemployed ? if you are unemployed then i suggest you contact norfolk county council or Norwich Council and request a needs assessments. The local authority can not deny someone a needs assessment. A social worker will come to you arrange an initial assessment where you can discuss your issues and they will work with you and sign post you to organization to help with benefits, help you find suitable employment opportunities and can even arrange college with extra support and if there is need help with housing.

It's not you, it's the general attitude of people who live in norfolk, people's attitudes get worse the more you head towards south norfolk and breckland districts. Norfolk has recently in the last few months now gotten adult adhd service and social services have now got specialist social workers that work with people with autism. 

Calm down, you sound almost as bad as me.

I've also experienced some pretty bad situations.  I informed my work coach at the job centre that I was autistic.  She refused to believe me, saying that I was, in her opinion completely normal, then in the same meeting, she told me off because my behaviour and body language was slightly unusual.

Sometimes you just cannot win.

Try a wrist band and snap yourself every time you find yourself being self critical. Have some positive mantras to chant......I am good, I am kind, I try hard to help others etc

Hi Ellie, are you feeling ok?

I know what it's like to be bullied because of my complete lack of social skills, it's really tough and sometimes letting a NT know you're autistic can actually make it worse (my mum says it's putting a target on your back). 

You can get help to manage panic and anxiety and this can help. Don't do regular CBT as its not the best for autistic people. Ask your GP to refer you to an appropriate service.

i have been taught by various wise people to never compare myself to others. As for actual achievements you must only look at the positive things you are doing. You have actually achieved a lot to be where you are.

Mantras keep me going and reading Zen books until my head hurts..

How can we keep going if everyone don't want to know impossible to get through life with achievements x

sorry you are having such a rough time right now. Please dont be so hard on yourself. 

Bullied judged not took seriously story of my life