How will a diagnosis help me?

Hi all. I’m struggling.

I fought to get my daughter diagnosed in 2018 and finally she was (she’s almost 10). It was such a battle but we got there, although the only benefit to her was extra support as she doesn’t understand it yet.

On a personal level I’ve always felt ‘blank’ when it comes to my emotions (except when it comes to my children) and I just can’t read other people. I hate small talk, I hate groups (obvs not a problem at the moment), I never went out to a pub or bar as the noise is so overwhelming and I can’t figure out what people are saying. 


it’s a huge problem for my other half right now - he says I just don’t have the ability to empathise with anyone (him) and I can’t deal with emotions. Loud voices scare me, I have never been able to deal with cross/angry/raised voices and just retreat into myself.

I have contacted my doctor but I just don’t know if following a diagnosis will benefit me at all?

I’m starting to feel like I don’t know myself any more or how to deal with anything I feel. 
Any advice appreciated. Thanks so much.

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  • A diagnosis takes a long time to get but for me it made everything make sense.

    In the short term there is a great book called the Aspergers Couples Workbook by Maxine Aston which if your husband will read it will really help.

    You have probably always had those issues so why is he bringing it up now ?

    You also sound like you need to find some peace for yourself. Are you able to contact a counsellor who is used to working with autistic people?

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  • A diagnosis takes a long time to get but for me it made everything make sense.

    In the short term there is a great book called the Aspergers Couples Workbook by Maxine Aston which if your husband will read it will really help.

    You have probably always had those issues so why is he bringing it up now ?

    You also sound like you need to find some peace for yourself. Are you able to contact a counsellor who is used to working with autistic people?

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