Dealing with jealousy and possessiveness as an autistic adult

I've always felt incredibly possessive of the person closest to me, and I find it hard to share them with others. I know I can't keep them to myself, but I don't know how to change the way I respond to seeing them having fun with others. It's just painful and I end up trying to avoid it at all costs. Any tips on how to have healthy boundaries?

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aidie over 4 years ago

at least u recognise u have a problem ---- you cant possess someone and if you try you risk being rejected emtirely by the person u want to be close to. So u have to control yourself.

Are you sexually attracted to the person you want to possess ?

is the person aware of your hidden possession/control problem ?
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GeekyAutism over 4 years ago in reply to aidie

I am not sexually attracted to them, and they are aware yes. I try very hard to not be possessive and I don't let them suffer for it, but I want to figure out how to not feel this way at all so I can enjoy my time with them more.
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aidie over 4 years ago in reply to GeekyAutism

when this feeling arises just pause and watch the feeling, check all over your body to see if any part of your body is tense. if u can, dont react to the feeling, its a thought like any other thought and if left alone it will fade.

in short, when u get the feeling try and create a gap so u dont do the wrong reaction
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aidie over 4 years ago in reply to GeekyAutism

when this feeling arises just pause and watch the feeling, check all over your body to see if any part of your body is tense. if u can, dont react to the feeling, its a thought like any other thought and if left alone it will fade.

in short, when u get the feeling try and create a gap so u dont do the wrong reaction
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