Being clingy

I'm a clingy person too. What you say is very similar to how I get in such situations.

There's a school of psychological thought called 'attachment theory'. Attachment theory theorises that people who are clingy are what they call 'anxious attachment'. The opposite side of that spectrum is people that have 'avoidant attachment'.

People with anxious attachment tend to be the 'people pleaser' types of people. Concerned what others think, like to spend time with their partner and get anxious if the partner (or prospective partner) doesn't text, or otherwise give sufficient attention. Anxiously attached people may also love to cuddle after sex.

The avoidant attachment folks tend to be the ones who feel they need significant separate time from their partner. They may also be less cuddly in general and less cuddly after intimacy. And yet, this isn't to say that they're less loving or less in need of human attachment, they just have a different way of being and showing it.

An odd thing about attachment theory is that anxiously attached people often attract avoidantly attached people (and vice versa). So, it's quite often that an anxiously attached person will love someone who isn't very cuddly and isn't the greatest at always responding back quickly.

There's also a category of 'securely attached' people who tend to be in the middle. They're not so clingy and they're not so strongly independent.

It's possible to over-analyse this kind of thing but it sometimes helps some of us to be aware that some people have a different kind of mode of being when it comes to relationships. It's certainly helped me to slightly better understand other partners I've been with.

I'm a clingy person too. What you say is very similar to how I get in such situations.

There's a school of psychological thought called 'attachment theory'. Attachment theory theorises that people who are clingy are what they call 'anxious attachment'. The opposite side of that spectrum is people that have 'avoidant attachment'.

People with anxious attachment tend to be the 'people pleaser' types of people. Concerned what others think, like to spend time with their partner and get anxious if the partner (or prospective partner) doesn't text, or otherwise give sufficient attention. Anxiously attached people may also love to cuddle after sex.

The avoidant attachment folks tend to be the ones who feel they need significant separate time from their partner. They may also be less cuddly in general and less cuddly after intimacy. And yet, this isn't to say that they're less loving or less in need of human attachment, they just have a different way of being and showing it.

An odd thing about attachment theory is that anxiously attached people often attract avoidantly attached people (and vice versa). So, it's quite often that an anxiously attached person will love someone who isn't very cuddly and isn't the greatest at always responding back quickly.

There's also a category of 'securely attached' people who tend to be in the middle. They're not so clingy and they're not so strongly independent.

It's possible to over-analyse this kind of thing but it sometimes helps some of us to be aware that some people have a different kind of mode of being when it comes to relationships. It's certainly helped me to slightly better understand other partners I've been with.