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Smart clothes

JoF

My 14 year old six foot tall son is very sensitive about clothing and really only wears t-shirts and trackies.  We are going to a posh family party soon and I would like to get him some trousers that are smarter than trackies but comfortable for him.  Can anyone recommend a shop or brand that might have something suitable? 

  • NAS11521 said:

    Wearing the correct clothes for a particular occasion helps boost my confidence - which, believe me, needs some boosting where social events are concerned.  Also, to wear casual dress to what you know is a special occasion can look insulting to your hosts.

     

    If it boosts your confidence then thats great. I think different people tick in different ways and should be allowed to express that. Some people love nothing more than to 'get dressed up'. If that makes someone feel good then thats really good. Is it more 'correct' than trackies? or anything else?

    As far as 'insulting' your host then that I find confusing. If I wanted to insult someone I would not do it by wearing particular clothes. That seems ineffective.

    If the reason for wearing uncomfortable clothes you don't like is that you don't want to offend the hosts then maybe discussing it beforehand might help. Would you be offended if someone wore particular clothes? If you really think the host would be offended then check with them first. I am sure that there are few people who really care. They most likely just want to be surrounded by their friends and having a nice time (feeling comfortable and happy).

  • And to force someone to wear something, that they're not comfortable wearing, is insulting to that person.

  • Jon said:

    Why should anyone be expected to wear something uncomfortable to satisfy social norms? Maybe you could wear trackies also to make HIM feel more comfortable? Instead of making him wear clothes to make YOU feel more comfortable?

     

    But it's a posh party, Jon, and that just wouldn't do!

  • Why should anyone be expected to wear something uncomfortable to satisfy social norms? Maybe you could wear trackies also to make HIM feel more comfortable? Instead of making him wear clothes to make YOU feel more comfortable?

  • hi JoF - wd your son be amenable to a bit of clothes shopping, if you explained about the party?  I guess you'd be looking for something that was comfy so I can understand why you're a bit stuck.  My son also likes comfy clothing but he wore a suit when he understood it was for a special event + he had to be dressed that way to gain admittance to the buffet!!