Published on 12, July, 2020
MY Husband was diagnosed with ASD a couple of years ago and has always had episodes where it has been hard to live with him. Recently due to Covid and isolation, these have become worse than usual, and I am really struggling. He has so much hate for the world inside him, which he takes out on me. I cannot do or say the right thing at the moment and its really getting me down. We are supposed to be decorating our lounge before Christmas, but he has given up on it after removing all the furniture and destroying the carpet. My problem is I find it hard to distinguish between ASD behaviour and a controlling relationship. I seem to spend all my time saying sorry. I try to understand him, but I dont always get it right and spend my life walking on eggshells around him. Feeling quite desperate right now.
Might be worth reading up about shutdowns using the search tool, and also searching on relationships. A few posts have covered similar issues.
I have not heard about shut downs until now. He does tend to block everything out using white noise and spends a lot of time sleeping. I am still struggling to communicate with him as he is still blocking me out. I am dreading Christmas for my daughters sake.
Damn I’m sorry to hear about your husband he might have depression it’s heavily linked with autism.
shudowns last usually a specific period and the person comes out of them. You're husband is having a depression bout to me. Or he has a massive fear of something he cant face. Ask hime "Want are u afraid off" if he cant speak tell him to write you a letter/note.
the aim s to locate the problem and to start getting him to express himself
Yes he takes prescription for depression.