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Needing structure and a sharply delineated routine

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I am finding it hard to deal with my relatively unstructured life post school and uni. I have imposed my own structure on my life, but what I really need is an externally imposed time-table like the one I had at school, telling me what to do at certain times. I find it hard to create my own structure because it feels looser and more subject to variation than an imposed structure from above. Most of my anxiety has its root in lack of structure, making me  feel insecure and causing my mind to wonder. While I can cope with small changes to routine, I can't cope with lack of structure and unpredictability. I have a part time job now, much to be thankful for, but it is very unstructured and depends on me taking the initiative far too much, causing stress and anxiety.

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  • The job is very unstructured, and is only 7 hours a week. I mainly work from home. I have asked the boss to write down instructions for me but she often does not do this. I find it very hard to know what to do when I have to make the decision for myself.  In one respect working from home is great because I can control the environment, but it can also be demoralizing and a very lonely experience. I am often left wondering how I should fill the hours.

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  • The job is very unstructured, and is only 7 hours a week. I mainly work from home. I have asked the boss to write down instructions for me but she often does not do this. I find it very hard to know what to do when I have to make the decision for myself.  In one respect working from home is great because I can control the environment, but it can also be demoralizing and a very lonely experience. I am often left wondering how I should fill the hours.

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