Shopping anxieties

Currently away this week with boyfriend, his mum and his son. I've been getting a bit stressed because I'm not really sure what I should be doing. I've enjoyed listening to Audible but it's rude sticking my headphones on. 

HHis mum has been cooking most the week. I'm not comfortable doing that as it's not my kitchen and also I'm a rubbish cook. A 20 minute meal will take me 90 mins - 2hours to cook (many tears and swearing too). Alas, I have found a one pan recipe and just have to get on with it.

Now, another massive issue is shopping. I rarely did the shops before and bulk buy so I don't have to go out (or shop online). The pandemic helped with not having to go to shops. I was supposed to get the ingredients from Aldi just now. Instead I've stressed and cried and not gone. I'm peeved because I took a deep breath, I wasn't happy but I was going to give the shopping a go. Prepped a list, got bags, mask etc. Then bf said his mum was coming. Grocery stores are not for days out. So now they have gone together. I've retreated to the bedroom and can't face anyone.

Well done if you made it this far. In summary, shopping is rubbish, it's even more stressful with additional pandemic rules; cooking is stressful; wearing a bra is stressful; being in the company of others all the time is stressful. 

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  • Being in a different environment. Being with people 24/7 who you don't normally live with AND feeling the pressure to be sociable. Having a different routine. Feeling guilty you're not cooking or worrying people are judging you possibly...? Finding shopping too much but steeling yourself to go anyway to show your contribution. THEN having his mum come along which wasn't in the plan.

    To me, it'd be drip,  drip, drip until it overflows. 

    I think it's totally to do with a situation you are not comfortable with. Whether it's ASC or anxiety or both,  you need somewhere you can be alone and not feel guilty about it.

  • Also that "I'm not sure what I should be doing" thing. It's hard isn't it, cos I know when you go and see someone it's to be sociable, but staying over at someone's it's like there's no escape. You can't be "on" all the time and no one expects you to be. 

    Bit off topic but...I have a friend who, when I see, it's overnight for one or two nights. I bring board games just in case. It involves social interaction but with a purpose. It takes less mental capacity thinking in the game than it would do if we were to sit and chat for the same length of time.  Just takes the pressure off a bit. Don't know if that's something you could try.

  • I think it is a bit of everything you've said. Even just watching TV was tough. I just watched it because everyone else was. It all seems so ridiculous and self centred. I hate these feelings.

    We did do some quizzes and as much as I'm rubbish it was nice to do. I cooked a fairly simple tray bake dinner of salmon, asparagus, potatoes and cherry tomatoes which went down well (with no tears or swearing).

    Home now. 

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  • I think it is a bit of everything you've said. Even just watching TV was tough. I just watched it because everyone else was. It all seems so ridiculous and self centred. I hate these feelings.

    We did do some quizzes and as much as I'm rubbish it was nice to do. I cooked a fairly simple tray bake dinner of salmon, asparagus, potatoes and cherry tomatoes which went down well (with no tears or swearing).

    Home now. 

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