Shopping anxieties

Currently away this week with boyfriend, his mum and his son. I've been getting a bit stressed because I'm not really sure what I should be doing. I've enjoyed listening to Audible but it's rude sticking my headphones on. 

HHis mum has been cooking most the week. I'm not comfortable doing that as it's not my kitchen and also I'm a rubbish cook. A 20 minute meal will take me 90 mins - 2hours to cook (many tears and swearing too). Alas, I have found a one pan recipe and just have to get on with it.

Now, another massive issue is shopping. I rarely did the shops before and bulk buy so I don't have to go out (or shop online). The pandemic helped with not having to go to shops. I was supposed to get the ingredients from Aldi just now. Instead I've stressed and cried and not gone. I'm peeved because I took a deep breath, I wasn't happy but I was going to give the shopping a go. Prepped a list, got bags, mask etc. Then bf said his mum was coming. Grocery stores are not for days out. So now they have gone together. I've retreated to the bedroom and can't face anyone.

Well done if you made it this far. In summary, shopping is rubbish, it's even more stressful with additional pandemic rules; cooking is stressful; wearing a bra is stressful; being in the company of others all the time is stressful. 

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  • I can't express how much I can relate to this. My BFs family is a very "loud and eccentric" and I find myself in so many uncomfortable situations that leave me in a panicked state. I feel absolutely awful when I'm sat with my BF crying some days over something his parents did or didn't do to help or made me feel uncomfortable.

    Last year I took a holiday with them and I think every night ended in me being upset about something they did. We were at a caravan park and they all wanted to go to the club but it was ridiculously loud in there and which was too much for me so I couldn't be in there and my BF didnt want to leave me alone so came with me. I felt so isolated that night with the feeling his whole family hated me because I wouldn't sit with them.

    Going out is a huge ordeal I end up needing to have a nap after each trip out. As you said it's a stressful experience and it's very exhausting with everything that goes through your head with anxiety as well. PLUS... BRAS... Evil instruments of discomfort. It's bad enough having to mentally prepare yourself for going out and then to have to put a bra on as well is a nightmare!! As I too have been enjoying this braless time over lockdown :D

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  • I can't express how much I can relate to this. My BFs family is a very "loud and eccentric" and I find myself in so many uncomfortable situations that leave me in a panicked state. I feel absolutely awful when I'm sat with my BF crying some days over something his parents did or didn't do to help or made me feel uncomfortable.

    Last year I took a holiday with them and I think every night ended in me being upset about something they did. We were at a caravan park and they all wanted to go to the club but it was ridiculously loud in there and which was too much for me so I couldn't be in there and my BF didnt want to leave me alone so came with me. I felt so isolated that night with the feeling his whole family hated me because I wouldn't sit with them.

    Going out is a huge ordeal I end up needing to have a nap after each trip out. As you said it's a stressful experience and it's very exhausting with everything that goes through your head with anxiety as well. PLUS... BRAS... Evil instruments of discomfort. It's bad enough having to mentally prepare yourself for going out and then to have to put a bra on as well is a nightmare!! As I too have been enjoying this braless time over lockdown :D

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