Shopping anxieties

Currently away this week with boyfriend, his mum and his son. I've been getting a bit stressed because I'm not really sure what I should be doing. I've enjoyed listening to Audible but it's rude sticking my headphones on. 

HHis mum has been cooking most the week. I'm not comfortable doing that as it's not my kitchen and also I'm a rubbish cook. A 20 minute meal will take me 90 mins - 2hours to cook (many tears and swearing too). Alas, I have found a one pan recipe and just have to get on with it.

Now, another massive issue is shopping. I rarely did the shops before and bulk buy so I don't have to go out (or shop online). The pandemic helped with not having to go to shops. I was supposed to get the ingredients from Aldi just now. Instead I've stressed and cried and not gone. I'm peeved because I took a deep breath, I wasn't happy but I was going to give the shopping a go. Prepped a list, got bags, mask etc. Then bf said his mum was coming. Grocery stores are not for days out. So now they have gone together. I've retreated to the bedroom and can't face anyone.

Well done if you made it this far. In summary, shopping is rubbish, it's even more stressful with additional pandemic rules; cooking is stressful; wearing a bra is stressful; being in the company of others all the time is stressful. 

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  • Perhaps Social-Phobia as well as Autism.

    Try and stick with grocery apps, if you don't like heading out shopping. A couple of hours ago, I ordered groceries from Asda on the app; which will arrive tomorrow. Does Aldi have an app for deliveries?

    Amazon was a Godsend for me during the Lockdown. It was the only place I could get pasta six months ago. I bought a bulk of twelve packets of restaurant-quality pasta for £26 - £20 plus delivery. Dear, but everywhere else then had none. Plus, I had a giggle at the pasta coming from a warehouse in Slough. (made me think of the David Brent film)

    Also, if bras make you uncomfortable then don't wear them.

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  • Perhaps Social-Phobia as well as Autism.

    Try and stick with grocery apps, if you don't like heading out shopping. A couple of hours ago, I ordered groceries from Asda on the app; which will arrive tomorrow. Does Aldi have an app for deliveries?

    Amazon was a Godsend for me during the Lockdown. It was the only place I could get pasta six months ago. I bought a bulk of twelve packets of restaurant-quality pasta for £26 - £20 plus delivery. Dear, but everywhere else then had none. Plus, I had a giggle at the pasta coming from a warehouse in Slough. (made me think of the David Brent film)

    Also, if bras make you uncomfortable then don't wear them.

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  • Thanks for your reply. It may well be a social thing too. I currently only have a diagnosis of anxiety and awaiting ASD assessment. 

    I usually just use online or BF has gone with no trouble (maybe slight mocking that he is driving and shopping AGAIN). Maybe some of the panic came from being forced into a situation I'm not comfortable with. Why do people do that? BF is usually pretty good but felt I was angry at him. I tried to explain I was unhappy with the situation and within that mood and mindset I can't be happy with people (makes no sense).

    Amazon has been great. I got 12 jars of cockles lol.

    I think many bras were made redundant through lockdown. I tend to wear it socially now. 6 months of eating and drinking what I want has made the bras worse than before. Looking forward to my own house and space where it can go back in the draw.haha.