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High Functioning Problems

ChrisS

Hi all,

I'm a 37 year old high functioning male, really struggling with life atm. On the face of it all looks good. I have a good job, 2 wonderful children and a partner, however I'm a complete shell of a human. I started this mental health journey a few years ago when I felt I was missing some emotions with my children. An ASD diagnosis was so obvious, I can't believe it was new to me but I have, on reflection, a crazy amount of coping mechanisms and strategies that I fooled myself. And as a very lonely only child of a single parent didn't really have any support nor comparisons in youth.

I'm finding that I feel more and more robotic each day. More overwhelmed and totally disconnected from emotion, intimacy and really void of any interests and hobbies.

Does ASD get worse with age? Am I just at the limit of what I can cope with (a relationship, children, work and day to day life)? Am I exhausted - I've read recently about autistic burnout.

I'd love to find some solace in these forums and thank anyone in advance who reads this or could offer advice or insight.

Much love to all,

Chris

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  • Hi Chris. I think it has got better for me. But the key here is to ensure that you have space for yourself, you're allowed to decompress and you're in a sympathetic environment. Getting a good night's sleep most nights and understanding what the telltale signs are for triggers to meltdowns help too. 

  • in reply to Midlands Monkey

    The thing that can annoy me is after I come in from work and lie on the sofa and the wife will walk past and say "sleeping again, you're lazy" but its because I'm shattered from being out and at work I've always needed sleep either after coming in from school or work or any family gathering.

    I definitely need time out as it gives you the chance as you say to decompress.

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  • in reply to Midlands Monkey

    The thing that can annoy me is after I come in from work and lie on the sofa and the wife will walk past and say "sleeping again, you're lazy" but its because I'm shattered from being out and at work I've always needed sleep either after coming in from school or work or any family gathering.

    I definitely need time out as it gives you the chance as you say to decompress.

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