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Find it so difficult to be a person

Tigerbalm

I'm just feeling a bit upset. I don't have many friends but enjoy meeting the ones I have, but it often leaves me feeling like I don't fit in, like I'm not a complete person. Other people always seem to know how to have conversations, things to say, how to respond/react. I usually end up being the one barely involved in conversations, even though I want to be. But I don't know what to contribute, or if there is something I want to say, I find it very difficult to find an opening, so my timing often seems off. 
My partner and I just met some friends tonight and as usual, I now feel bad about myself, because somehow everyone else seems to know how to function and I barely scrape by. It affects every area of my life that involves dealing with other people in some capacity, and I'm so sick of feeling left out or incapable. I see other people just being people with such ease and feel like I'm on the outside looking in. Like I'll never be able to really be a part of it. It's just quite upsetting :-/

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  • I think the big problem is not being able to do 'small talk'.    That pointless waste of energy talking about nothing - it seems that NT's way of breathing is expelling pointless rubbish from their mouths - they do it all day and can't survive without it..

    I find that all of my long-term friends are techy nerds - the vast amount of our conversations are about a 'thing' or subject or bouncing ideas between each other.

    I can only suggest looking at your interests and passions and getting together with others into the same stuff - it's so much more comfortable.

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  • I think the big problem is not being able to do 'small talk'.    That pointless waste of energy talking about nothing - it seems that NT's way of breathing is expelling pointless rubbish from their mouths - they do it all day and can't survive without it..

    I find that all of my long-term friends are techy nerds - the vast amount of our conversations are about a 'thing' or subject or bouncing ideas between each other.

    I can only suggest looking at your interests and passions and getting together with others into the same stuff - it's so much more comfortable.

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