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Find it so difficult to be a person

Tigerbalm

I'm just feeling a bit upset. I don't have many friends but enjoy meeting the ones I have, but it often leaves me feeling like I don't fit in, like I'm not a complete person. Other people always seem to know how to have conversations, things to say, how to respond/react. I usually end up being the one barely involved in conversations, even though I want to be. But I don't know what to contribute, or if there is something I want to say, I find it very difficult to find an opening, so my timing often seems off. 
My partner and I just met some friends tonight and as usual, I now feel bad about myself, because somehow everyone else seems to know how to function and I barely scrape by. It affects every area of my life that involves dealing with other people in some capacity, and I'm so sick of feeling left out or incapable. I see other people just being people with such ease and feel like I'm on the outside looking in. Like I'll never be able to really be a part of it. It's just quite upsetting :-/

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  • Hi, firstly, well done you for getting and keeping friends! I find that so hard. I dont have any friends, just people that I talk to every now and again. I realised only recently that I treat all people the same, sooooo if they want to be my friend I kind of expect theyll treat people the way I do, like what I do, have morals etc the same. Upon reading various things I realised that I dont choose friends, people choose me and their usually not the kind of people you want around! So I'm working on this. 

    Do you find similar or are you more savvy in that respect?

    So anyway, I wanted to say, by maintaining friendships with people you like your already doing well :)

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  • Hi, firstly, well done you for getting and keeping friends! I find that so hard. I dont have any friends, just people that I talk to every now and again. I realised only recently that I treat all people the same, sooooo if they want to be my friend I kind of expect theyll treat people the way I do, like what I do, have morals etc the same. Upon reading various things I realised that I dont choose friends, people choose me and their usually not the kind of people you want around! So I'm working on this. 

    Do you find similar or are you more savvy in that respect?

    So anyway, I wanted to say, by maintaining friendships with people you like your already doing well :)

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