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Find it so difficult to be a person

Tigerbalm

I'm just feeling a bit upset. I don't have many friends but enjoy meeting the ones I have, but it often leaves me feeling like I don't fit in, like I'm not a complete person. Other people always seem to know how to have conversations, things to say, how to respond/react. I usually end up being the one barely involved in conversations, even though I want to be. But I don't know what to contribute, or if there is something I want to say, I find it very difficult to find an opening, so my timing often seems off. 
My partner and I just met some friends tonight and as usual, I now feel bad about myself, because somehow everyone else seems to know how to function and I barely scrape by. It affects every area of my life that involves dealing with other people in some capacity, and I'm so sick of feeling left out or incapable. I see other people just being people with such ease and feel like I'm on the outside looking in. Like I'll never be able to really be a part of it. It's just quite upsetting :-/

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  • Hi - I'm a 20 year old girl who is self diagnosed and in the early stages of being formally diagnosed. Thank you so much for sharing this, because it's something I have been able to relate to my whole life! 

    I so often feel like I am on the edge of a social group, wanting to join in desperately and share things, but not knowing quite how to. Often afterwards I beat myself up and go over and over what happened, what I said, and what was said to me, trying to understand why I felt so left out! I think this is completely normal with autism as we all seem to process things in different ways at different paces, so group conversation can be really difficult to keep up with and that's okay. 

    Could you possibly discuss this with your partner or a few of your close friends, so that they understand how you experience it and can hopefully create more space for you in the future to get you involved? 

    Anyway feel free to drop me a message any time and swap experiences

    Bea

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  • Hi - I'm a 20 year old girl who is self diagnosed and in the early stages of being formally diagnosed. Thank you so much for sharing this, because it's something I have been able to relate to my whole life! 

    I so often feel like I am on the edge of a social group, wanting to join in desperately and share things, but not knowing quite how to. Often afterwards I beat myself up and go over and over what happened, what I said, and what was said to me, trying to understand why I felt so left out! I think this is completely normal with autism as we all seem to process things in different ways at different paces, so group conversation can be really difficult to keep up with and that's okay. 

    Could you possibly discuss this with your partner or a few of your close friends, so that they understand how you experience it and can hopefully create more space for you in the future to get you involved? 

    Anyway feel free to drop me a message any time and swap experiences

    Bea

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