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I’m suffering from Gender Dysphoria, meaning I’m transgender which along with the Aspergers Syndrome is causing me so much grief it’s causing me terrible depression. I’ve been having suicidal thoughts and I don’t know what to do about it. There’s no way out of this predicament for me. If I were to become a girl it would cause my family to fall apart and if I stay as I am I’ll forever feel miserable and hate myself. I can’t help the way I feel but there’s no good solution. I’ve read before online that it’s common for people with Aspergers to have Gender Dysphoria as well. But it’s also a pain. Transgender people are despised by so many people, including the majority of my family. I’ve heard my family say before why can’t transgender people just be happy as they are. But it really isn’t that simple. It’s impossible. I’ve been feeling like this since I was seven, and it’s at breaking point now. I feel so alone and suicidal. I need help, to speak to somebody but I have no one to speak with that will understand my situation and how I feel before it’s too late. I’ve been thinking about how to end my life and how much better it would be if I wasn’t here. But inside, I feel so alive and have thought of a name, a different life, and it’s so sad because it’s a life that is forbidden and I could never feasibly have. I just wish I could have been normal and had a roughly straightforward life because this is a living nightmare and now I feel like it’s coming to a crashing end. I just want to be happy and understand everything but I understand nothing and am so puzzled with myself and life I don’t know where to go from here.

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  • I'm also trans, though a non-binary gender. There's nothing wrong with being trans and there are many people who are completely accepting of us. Though it's difficult having to deal with people saying hateful things about trans people, especially from people close to you. My family weren't particularly progressive when it comes to trans, but slowly my parents and most of my siblings have come round to it.

    It might be helpful to speak to your GP about your depression, if you haven't already. And might be helpful to ask your GP to refer you to a gender clinic as well. Talking to a gender therapist might help with understanding your gender dysphoria and deciding whether to transition. And if you think you might ever want hormones or surgeries in the future it's helpful to get yourself in the system as the waiting lists can be long depending on what region you're in.

    In terms of dealing with gender dysphoria, some trans people find coming out and socially transitioning (clothing, hairstyle, name, pronouns, etc.) helps to deal with it. These can be done gradually if you are unsure about it, or unsure how family or others will react. Though it's a difficult decision to make, and some trans people wait until after speaking to a gender therapist.

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  • I'm also trans, though a non-binary gender. There's nothing wrong with being trans and there are many people who are completely accepting of us. Though it's difficult having to deal with people saying hateful things about trans people, especially from people close to you. My family weren't particularly progressive when it comes to trans, but slowly my parents and most of my siblings have come round to it.

    It might be helpful to speak to your GP about your depression, if you haven't already. And might be helpful to ask your GP to refer you to a gender clinic as well. Talking to a gender therapist might help with understanding your gender dysphoria and deciding whether to transition. And if you think you might ever want hormones or surgeries in the future it's helpful to get yourself in the system as the waiting lists can be long depending on what region you're in.

    In terms of dealing with gender dysphoria, some trans people find coming out and socially transitioning (clothing, hairstyle, name, pronouns, etc.) helps to deal with it. These can be done gradually if you are unsure about it, or unsure how family or others will react. Though it's a difficult decision to make, and some trans people wait until after speaking to a gender therapist.

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