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Worried about my baby

MarilynHeartsSpongebob

Hello, I’m Marilyn.

I’m 23 and have been dealing and struggling to adapt to adult life with Autism. The support I used to have vanished over night and now there’s no help for me. I live way out in the back of beyond and there’s no support groups near me, and though I can drive I don’t like to go too far. My nerves can’t stand it.

By no fault of my own I’m also expecting a baby now who is due on December 16th which is still a long way off but I can’t help but worry about him or her. What if the baby is Autistic as well? What if it’s worse than I am? What if I can’t cope? I’m so scared and worried all the time at the moment. My own Autism isn’t the greatest. I’d say I’m high functioning but I’m struggling adapting to adult life. I wish I could have stayed at school, which I tried to do but they got the police to escort me from the school.

And now there’s a baby on the way and I’m wondering if I’m going to be a good mum or not. My mum was rubbish, she was never there for me when I needed her and I don’t want my own child to have a mum like that. I want to be the best mum, fun, caring and supportive no matter what. But I feel so negative and low. I don’t know anything about parenting, or children and me having Autism I think will make it even worse for me.

Maybe I’m overreacting though? I think it depends on the people sometimes and though I do have my problems I am a good person, or I try to be. I just want to have a happy life and a happy baby.

If anyone has any tips then I’d really appreciate them.

Thank you in advance.

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  • Hello Merilyn. I am an autistic woman and I have two autistic daughters.

    It is natural to be a litle anxious about becoming a parent an thinking of what kind of parent you want to be. I spent some time thinking what kind of parent I wanted to be, what I didn't want to be like. I think it is important, but apart from that I didn't 'prepare'.You sound already as a great mum that will always be there for her children and will care a great deal. One thing I learned is that parenting is a natural instinct. You don't need a degree in parenting. It all comes natural at the right time. One thing I would say is check with your GP about depression and get medication if necessary.
    Stay on this forum as there is a lot of support.

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  • Hello Merilyn. I am an autistic woman and I have two autistic daughters.

    It is natural to be a litle anxious about becoming a parent an thinking of what kind of parent you want to be. I spent some time thinking what kind of parent I wanted to be, what I didn't want to be like. I think it is important, but apart from that I didn't 'prepare'.You sound already as a great mum that will always be there for her children and will care a great deal. One thing I learned is that parenting is a natural instinct. You don't need a degree in parenting. It all comes natural at the right time. One thing I would say is check with your GP about depression and get medication if necessary.
    Stay on this forum as there is a lot of support.

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