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Worried about my baby

MarilynHeartsSpongebob

Hello, I’m Marilyn.

I’m 23 and have been dealing and struggling to adapt to adult life with Autism. The support I used to have vanished over night and now there’s no help for me. I live way out in the back of beyond and there’s no support groups near me, and though I can drive I don’t like to go too far. My nerves can’t stand it.

By no fault of my own I’m also expecting a baby now who is due on December 16th which is still a long way off but I can’t help but worry about him or her. What if the baby is Autistic as well? What if it’s worse than I am? What if I can’t cope? I’m so scared and worried all the time at the moment. My own Autism isn’t the greatest. I’d say I’m high functioning but I’m struggling adapting to adult life. I wish I could have stayed at school, which I tried to do but they got the police to escort me from the school.

And now there’s a baby on the way and I’m wondering if I’m going to be a good mum or not. My mum was rubbish, she was never there for me when I needed her and I don’t want my own child to have a mum like that. I want to be the best mum, fun, caring and supportive no matter what. But I feel so negative and low. I don’t know anything about parenting, or children and me having Autism I think will make it even worse for me.

Maybe I’m overreacting though? I think it depends on the people sometimes and though I do have my problems I am a good person, or I try to be. I just want to have a happy life and a happy baby.

If anyone has any tips then I’d really appreciate them.

Thank you in advance.

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  • Thanks for the replies. The father, if you can call it that, isn’t around anymore and the pregnancy wasnt a choice sadly. A supposed to be friend of mine took advantage and then when I report it they do nothing because I'm a 'retard' apparently. I’ve thought of abortion, but I didn’t have the heart for it, I possibly should but I don’t like the idea of terminating a life like that. For me I don’t feel that’s a good thing to do, not when this baby could grow in to a beautiful person and have a very happy life.

    Cassandro, thank you for telling me about national childbirth trust, I think this will be helpful along the way. No such groups are near to me but I’m going to see about getting in touch with other parents with Autism, preferably a woman as she’ll know exactly what it’s like to be this way. But the national childbirth trust is a great place to start.

    Thanks I had Enough, I’m looking in to coping strategies and I have possible adoption as a backup plan if things don’t work out in the end. My doctor recently helped me work on breathing exercises to help control my anxiety and I also have ear plugs for when sound sensory goes over the top so next time I see her I’ll also ask for advice on how best to cope with a baby as well.

    Thank you for responding so quickly.

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  • Thanks for the replies. The father, if you can call it that, isn’t around anymore and the pregnancy wasnt a choice sadly. A supposed to be friend of mine took advantage and then when I report it they do nothing because I'm a 'retard' apparently. I’ve thought of abortion, but I didn’t have the heart for it, I possibly should but I don’t like the idea of terminating a life like that. For me I don’t feel that’s a good thing to do, not when this baby could grow in to a beautiful person and have a very happy life.

    Cassandro, thank you for telling me about national childbirth trust, I think this will be helpful along the way. No such groups are near to me but I’m going to see about getting in touch with other parents with Autism, preferably a woman as she’ll know exactly what it’s like to be this way. But the national childbirth trust is a great place to start.

    Thanks I had Enough, I’m looking in to coping strategies and I have possible adoption as a backup plan if things don’t work out in the end. My doctor recently helped me work on breathing exercises to help control my anxiety and I also have ear plugs for when sound sensory goes over the top so next time I see her I’ll also ask for advice on how best to cope with a baby as well.

    Thank you for responding so quickly.

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