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Worried about my baby

MarilynHeartsSpongebob

Hello, I’m Marilyn.

I’m 23 and have been dealing and struggling to adapt to adult life with Autism. The support I used to have vanished over night and now there’s no help for me. I live way out in the back of beyond and there’s no support groups near me, and though I can drive I don’t like to go too far. My nerves can’t stand it.

By no fault of my own I’m also expecting a baby now who is due on December 16th which is still a long way off but I can’t help but worry about him or her. What if the baby is Autistic as well? What if it’s worse than I am? What if I can’t cope? I’m so scared and worried all the time at the moment. My own Autism isn’t the greatest. I’d say I’m high functioning but I’m struggling adapting to adult life. I wish I could have stayed at school, which I tried to do but they got the police to escort me from the school.

And now there’s a baby on the way and I’m wondering if I’m going to be a good mum or not. My mum was rubbish, she was never there for me when I needed her and I don’t want my own child to have a mum like that. I want to be the best mum, fun, caring and supportive no matter what. But I feel so negative and low. I don’t know anything about parenting, or children and me having Autism I think will make it even worse for me.

Maybe I’m overreacting though? I think it depends on the people sometimes and though I do have my problems I am a good person, or I try to be. I just want to have a happy life and a happy baby.

If anyone has any tips then I’d really appreciate them.

Thank you in advance.

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  • Hello, Marilyn, welcome to the forums.

    I'm sorry to hear you lost the support you used to have. What was that? Do you live with anyone else? It sounds to me as if you should be getting some support from social services or health visitors at least. I suppose you overcome your fears of adult life by facing up to responsibilities but it helps if you have someone there as a safety net.

    Any parent-to-be will worry about being a good parent. Do you know about the National Childbirth Trust https://www.nct.org.uk/ ? They help mums learn from other mums about how to be a good mum, and they might have a friendly group near you or might even be able to sort out transport if your fear of driving is still too much.

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  • Hello, Marilyn, welcome to the forums.

    I'm sorry to hear you lost the support you used to have. What was that? Do you live with anyone else? It sounds to me as if you should be getting some support from social services or health visitors at least. I suppose you overcome your fears of adult life by facing up to responsibilities but it helps if you have someone there as a safety net.

    Any parent-to-be will worry about being a good parent. Do you know about the National Childbirth Trust https://www.nct.org.uk/ ? They help mums learn from other mums about how to be a good mum, and they might have a friendly group near you or might even be able to sort out transport if your fear of driving is still too much.

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