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negative circuit thinking

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Hello everyone! Recently I noticed that a coworker who I care a lot has Aspergers. We did not talk about it and probably won't. I totally respect and admire his work. He’s a middle age man and we had a trouble with our boss. I really want to find a solution for us in order to finish the project we are involved with, a project that is very important for both of us. He’s “stuck” in some kind of a negative “circuit”, maybe a little paranoid. I do not understand completely what happened between him and our boss, he does not tell me the whole story. He seems to be in a kamikaze process, and I do not know what to do or to say in order to move forward. I wonder if you have some clues on how I can cope with that. :)

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  • I recognise this. I've been doing what your colleague now does at least 3 times in the past.

    Where people with asperger are usually surprisingly different from others is that we like things to be clear and we hate authority.

    I told my bosses these things: (when I already decided I was going to replace the boss by a different person)

    - I want my boss to adhere to much higher standards than you do

    - Your job is to motivate your people, I'm not motivated, you're not doing your job well

    - I'll stop doing overtime, you have the right to assert this, but you kept me here until 19:00 to talk this through, I will apply for overtime for this

    I want a boss to have alpha-female characteristics, firm, hard working, taking responsibility for own actions, just. And no macho nonsense, it's just an office job, don't make it sound like we're a platoon under enemy fire (agile mysticism)

    If your colleague recognises any of this, tell him that he's wasting his time on nonsensical behaviour. 

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  • I recognise this. I've been doing what your colleague now does at least 3 times in the past.

    Where people with asperger are usually surprisingly different from others is that we like things to be clear and we hate authority.

    I told my bosses these things: (when I already decided I was going to replace the boss by a different person)

    - I want my boss to adhere to much higher standards than you do

    - Your job is to motivate your people, I'm not motivated, you're not doing your job well

    - I'll stop doing overtime, you have the right to assert this, but you kept me here until 19:00 to talk this through, I will apply for overtime for this

    I want a boss to have alpha-female characteristics, firm, hard working, taking responsibility for own actions, just. And no macho nonsense, it's just an office job, don't make it sound like we're a platoon under enemy fire (agile mysticism)

    If your colleague recognises any of this, tell him that he's wasting his time on nonsensical behaviour. 

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