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Rewinding all conversations and feeling guilty

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Hi, 

I'd like to ask for your help. I tend to rewind every conversation I have with non-family both on the phone and in person. Sometimes this makes me so sad if I discover I might have offended someone. Is this normal for someone on the spectrum? I feel guilt and sometimes I excessively apologise and people say they don't understand why I say sorry. Based on my observation, they think my reaction is not appropriate for the situation. I don't think they understand why I feel a need to be this way and they don't think my apology is genuine. I want to figure out what the root cause of this is. I have come to the conclusion that I'm afraid of people getting offended because I am afraid that would make them very sad and they would think I'm a bad person but I only have this with people who are colleagues and strangers, not family members. Is there something I can do to fix this?   

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  • Hello

    the only reason i haven't replied is because there is a very similar thread posted a few days ago. So, yes I do this, several of us have been chatting on the thread that our thought loops drive us mad.  Anyway I just wanted to make you feel welcome :-)  

    My own answer on this is that I can't stop the thoughts.  They occasionally help me to resolve something,  Based on that (maybe 1% of cases) somehow i justify to myself that it is always worth being awake every night doing thought loops.  Well, we know it isn't and the sleep stolen by them is crippling. 

    I reckon there is more help out there than we know of  - maybe hypnosis techniques etc- or something else. We can't change the past and we can't do much about someone's opinion of us, even if it is wrong. the control freak in us wants to.  That is my battle.    The answer, however much I hate to hear it, is some kind of mindfulness training where I learn not to care.  One day I will learn this. 

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  • Hello

    the only reason i haven't replied is because there is a very similar thread posted a few days ago. So, yes I do this, several of us have been chatting on the thread that our thought loops drive us mad.  Anyway I just wanted to make you feel welcome :-)  

    My own answer on this is that I can't stop the thoughts.  They occasionally help me to resolve something,  Based on that (maybe 1% of cases) somehow i justify to myself that it is always worth being awake every night doing thought loops.  Well, we know it isn't and the sleep stolen by them is crippling. 

    I reckon there is more help out there than we know of  - maybe hypnosis techniques etc- or something else. We can't change the past and we can't do much about someone's opinion of us, even if it is wrong. the control freak in us wants to.  That is my battle.    The answer, however much I hate to hear it, is some kind of mindfulness training where I learn not to care.  One day I will learn this. 

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