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Help needed with relationship advice please

Gem

I have recently been in a relationship with my partner for 7months. He's the most caring ever ! He did used to joke about ocd and being autistic but as the months went on I noticed some trates ( I work in a special needs school ) we have done the test and he clearly is autistic BUT what I am struggling with is our relationship. He seems to think I lie about things which then spiral into senarios in his head. He can be awful and say mean things and does not listen to an explanation or how I feel. He can completely block me out of his life which makes me feel like he doesn't care. Has anyone else experienced this ? Constantly being accused of lying and then he can repeat the same argument days maybe a week later as it will come back into his head. I love him dearly he's amazing and so funny but this has ruined us both . He can't accept I have been faithful or My way of thinking is acceptable

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  • Hi Gem

    .. I have had a lot of difficulty with relationships

    .. looking back I wish I'd know that I was well into the ASD/AS spectrum .. then perhaps I would have had a better understanding about my view of the world .. and the likely challenges I'd have interacting with people

    .. especially girfriends

    .. I like to think I'd have been able to spot my own patterns and how they were hurting others (particularly those close to me) ..

    .. perhaps if your partner had a better understanding about his position on the spectrum then he'd moderate how he interacts with you??

    .. sending a virtual hug ..

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  • Hi Gem

    .. I have had a lot of difficulty with relationships

    .. looking back I wish I'd know that I was well into the ASD/AS spectrum .. then perhaps I would have had a better understanding about my view of the world .. and the likely challenges I'd have interacting with people

    .. especially girfriends

    .. I like to think I'd have been able to spot my own patterns and how they were hurting others (particularly those close to me) ..

    .. perhaps if your partner had a better understanding about his position on the spectrum then he'd moderate how he interacts with you??

    .. sending a virtual hug ..

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  • in reply to Up t'North

    Have you recently been diagnosed ? My partner is fully aware and with a little prompt would possibly go for a diagnosis with support. Would you have any advice on what would of made your relationship better for your other half on understanding you ? My partner is very open with his feelings, loving and caring . When angry he can be like that for days.