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Bullying

Oscie

I am anxious as my boss has scheduled an unexpected meeting with me and hasn't told me what it is about. Every time she does this it means someone from my team has made a complaint against me. I and a couple of others have been bullied by the majority of this group for over a year. Each new boss (on our third) can't get a grip on it. Anyway, as I have a ASD it is doubly difficult for me to cope with this. I am so anxious that this new boss is out of her depth, so the easy way out is to make me the problem. Anyone have any ideas how to cope with this? 

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  • Hi, what a horrible situation for you, especially if you anticipate over and over, then ruminate over and over after the event. 

    My only small suggestion is to prepare yourself a bit, to be ready for an adult to adult transaction. Make sure you don't adopt a child to parent stance, eg. language or body language that is submissive when speaking to your boss. You are equals, don't act superior or inferior. Unless you're in the army or similar, the hierarchy does not reduce your standing. How do two equal adults have this conversation? 

    Another approach is to make yourself a spectator and be more objective, take out some emotion. Think about a similar conversation you've had, as if you were watching it instead of taking part. Eavesdrop on yourself. Imagine instead of you, it was your friend. How would you advise that friend? 

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  • Hi, what a horrible situation for you, especially if you anticipate over and over, then ruminate over and over after the event. 

    My only small suggestion is to prepare yourself a bit, to be ready for an adult to adult transaction. Make sure you don't adopt a child to parent stance, eg. language or body language that is submissive when speaking to your boss. You are equals, don't act superior or inferior. Unless you're in the army or similar, the hierarchy does not reduce your standing. How do two equal adults have this conversation? 

    Another approach is to make yourself a spectator and be more objective, take out some emotion. Think about a similar conversation you've had, as if you were watching it instead of taking part. Eavesdrop on yourself. Imagine instead of you, it was your friend. How would you advise that friend? 

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