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Stay or go

Matthew
over 3 years ago

Hi Everyone

Should I stay or go?

Sorry I keep doing this in bits , I get thoughts and they leave my mind. I struggle to remember each point.

So my wife is adament that if i leave she will be a better mum, that i wont zap her and she will have more buffer for the kids.

I stay to be a better me and work out this puzzle and get it right.

And that I'm worried if I'm not here the kids will have to deal with a angry tired mum by themselves at least Im hear to share the load of the kids, give her a break.

Am I wrong Am i too much of a problem and its better for everyone I leave and parent from a distance.

I dont want to leave my home that my parents put a a huge contribution to and I've worked huge amount hours to pay for and develop into an awesome home for kiddies Slight smile

But am I being selfish and I doing what I want at the expense of hurting my wife.

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  • over 3 years ago

    Hi Matthew, 

    I think you should wait until lockdown is over and then talk to your wife. When all the stress of covid19 is done with things will look brighter for sure and you'll both be able to chill and relook at things. Your wife may feel differently then as no doubt she'll be overwhelmed by all that's happening at the moment.

    I definitely wouldn't recommend you or any father or mother leaving and parent from a distance. Children need their parents with them always and when one is away that can cause a lot of distress for them.

    You're obviously a very thoughtful person and a great father, your not selfish, your an asset to your family.

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  • over 3 years ago

    Hi Matthew, 

    I think you should wait until lockdown is over and then talk to your wife. When all the stress of covid19 is done with things will look brighter for sure and you'll both be able to chill and relook at things. Your wife may feel differently then as no doubt she'll be overwhelmed by all that's happening at the moment.

    I definitely wouldn't recommend you or any father or mother leaving and parent from a distance. Children need their parents with them always and when one is away that can cause a lot of distress for them.

    You're obviously a very thoughtful person and a great father, your not selfish, your an asset to your family.

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