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Should I go home to visit my family?

NAS62563

Hi, I am diagnosed with ASD and live alone in England, I do not have contact with any people here and have been alone for 8 weeks now due to the lockdown

My family lives in Scotland and I would like to drive there to visit them and stay for 2 or 3 days before I go back to work (I work from home from 1st June). It would also be ideal at the end of this month as it is my mum and grandmothers birthdays. Of course I would maintain social distancing if I did get to see my grandparents (my family have been visiting them in the garden anyway)

The laws keep changing and although Scotland is due to relax restrictions on the 28th of May, I don't think you are supposed to stay at another household. I see people breaking these rules all the time though (such as my flatmate having his girlfriend over every couple of days). My main worry would be my parents neighbours seeing my car there

With regards to ASD some laws have been relaxed but it is not very clear, does breaking the rules for "health reasons" apply to me if I have ASD and have not been able to see my family for 8 weeks and am struggling with this?

    • You sound like you've made your mind up so just go
  • in reply to Anthony

    I had just moved out in February so the first time not seeing my family for this long is starting to cause me more mental health issues. I also need my overdue prescription from Scotland which I'm not sure if it can be posted due to the rules around liquids in the post.

    Now why is it acceptable that we can stand in a shop queue next to other people for half an hour whilst kids runs into you and people smoke and vape in your face, we can be in closed rooms with crowds of people in shops and soon schools and places of work, and public transport, we can pick up unwashed shopping basket handles and petrol pumps that others have touched yet I am not supposed to see my family for 1 or 2 days? What sort of life is that worth living? The virus won't just go away it would only be prolonging the inevitable for a few months as there is no option to keep lockdown for years and collapse the whole economy making things many times worse than just 0.01% more deaths than normal. NHS Nightingale hasnt even been used. People are still breaking the rules everywhere I go. I know the government and media has programmed fear into you and most people but I can see through the availability cascade

  • in reply to mouse2

    The chance of me being a carrier is very little as I have no interaction with anyone. My parents think that the world shouldnt be put on hold with millions of careers and businesses being ruined, mental health rising just because of a tiny, tiny, tiny risk that some people will die. That is not a life worth living and if we are due to die then we are due to die and it cant be prolonged forever regardless unless the whole economy collapses by keeping everyone in lockdown for years. Statistically there has been 0.01% more deaths than normal in the UK

  • I think health reasons would be where you need care provisions from another family member Because you are unable to care for yourself, and given that you live independently from family I don’t think ASD in your case at least would count. Really what you are proposing is break based on social needs, not medical and that is 100% not permissible under the guidelines. Without wanting to sound too negative here - people really shouldn’t be using ASD as justification to break rules which have been set in theory at least to prevent the spread of the virus. In fact if people keep playing the ASD cars, when we really need it, the support won’t be there, so I’d strongly advise against it because its an attempt to play the system. Many, many, many people have had to go without seeing family members for 8 weeks or more, and autistic or otherwise it has been a struggle for everyone... this is not something that is exclusive to ASD. The point is that we are all having a tough time, not seeing loved ones, routines up in the air etc - but it’ll pass - just give it time. Of course you could choose not to heed this advice, however the police would be absolutely right to take appropriate action against you which is a risk you’d have to be willing to take. Equally you’d need to be willing to subject your loved ones to harm - given that many are asymptomatic there is a possibility you could have the virus without displaying symptoms and pass it on. Like I said I’m not trying to be negative here - just giving an external perspective. 

  • the way i see it is, how would you cope if you were a carrier but not aware and your parents got really sick? thats my main question before rule breaking. But then ive had the virus quite  bad and still have lung problems from it. I was a healthy and active adult with no health issues.(I'd only been out of the house 3 times since january, it takes just 1 person)

    Anyway,If I were you I would think about that question. Talk it over with your parents even, see what they think

  • As far as I'm aware you are allowed to go and stay with a friend or relative for a few days for any medical reason, which includes mental health purposes. If you genuinly are struggling then your parents can simply say you are staying with them for a medical reason