Still failing at talking to people

Will i ever get things right? Just offended another person as I asked what chemicals were put down as whatever it was it was way too strong and with it being a public place it could be a health issue. Also with me helping there concerned for my own safety so I'd worked around the affected area I put all this as nicely as I I possibly could and I put the kisses at the end that people seem to do. But offended the person plus they wont say what's used just said 'you do it then!' I've replied I just wanted to know and struggle socially due to having aspergers and dont always know how to write things. Just upsetting people makes me super anxious. The person didnt reply.

Another volunteering role i asked where the money had gone as the children had to miss out on an activity due to missing funds. Everyone hated me and the treasurer left! They were all doting on the treasurer and not worrying about missing funds! These things are odd to me why would people let others do as they please and not question any discrepancies?

Another time I asked if the person had taken drugs as I was suspicious and they were in charge of people. They got super nasty about me asking

I constantly fail yet try so darn hard. Especially atm as I cant meet with people and have to message to find things out. Exhausted 

Parents
  • Regarding offending new people..... I always find it best to lead by telling them I have autism with difficulties communicating, I'll then explain that it is not my intention to offend, But I'm anxious to know.....

    Usually after reading that it makes them look at what comes after in a different light.... It's how I deal with phoning people I don't know as well, It usually gets a better response from people..... I still sweat buckets & freak out inside with the phone calls & Talking to people I don't know in person....

    If that doesn't work you are dealing with an A-hole & you shouldn't let their unreasonable response get to you.

Reply
  • Regarding offending new people..... I always find it best to lead by telling them I have autism with difficulties communicating, I'll then explain that it is not my intention to offend, But I'm anxious to know.....

    Usually after reading that it makes them look at what comes after in a different light.... It's how I deal with phoning people I don't know as well, It usually gets a better response from people..... I still sweat buckets & freak out inside with the phone calls & Talking to people I don't know in person....

    If that doesn't work you are dealing with an A-hole & you shouldn't let their unreasonable response get to you.

Children
  • I find that when i'm dealing with people who don't know I have autism they get really frustrated & are often unhelpful....

    When they know I have autism from the start, They try harder, They don't get frustrated as easily, They want to help to make themselves feel better about themselves (apart from A-holes who aren't worth getting upset over), Things go a lot easier for me & for the people I am dealing with.

    Hope this helps