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Still failing at talking to people

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Will i ever get things right? Just offended another person as I asked what chemicals were put down as whatever it was it was way too strong and with it being a public place it could be a health issue. Also with me helping there concerned for my own safety so I'd worked around the affected area I put all this as nicely as I I possibly could and I put the kisses at the end that people seem to do. But offended the person plus they wont say what's used just said 'you do it then!' I've replied I just wanted to know and struggle socially due to having aspergers and dont always know how to write things. Just upsetting people makes me super anxious. The person didnt reply.

Another volunteering role i asked where the money had gone as the children had to miss out on an activity due to missing funds. Everyone hated me and the treasurer left! They were all doting on the treasurer and not worrying about missing funds! These things are odd to me why would people let others do as they please and not question any discrepancies?

Another time I asked if the person had taken drugs as I was suspicious and they were in charge of people. They got super nasty about me asking

I constantly fail yet try so darn hard. Especially atm as I cant meet with people and have to message to find things out. Exhausted 

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  • I have a similar problem.... I am currently trying to be rehoused to a disabled adapted property, The council told me I must maintain contact with them..... I recently noticed they had sent our local MP information saying we had ended 5th & 7th for bids on properties on the local council website, I  questioned this as I had taken screenshots showing we had ended 1st & been ignored, I put a complaint into the council & got a reply saying they had bypassed our bids as the properties had stairlifts instead of a wheelchair lift, But they had also been ignoring the service that advised us to bid on those properties & wer trying to contact the council to arrange adaptations to make the properties suitable.....

    Since all of that I have very politely tried to maintain contact with local housing & housing options, They have responded to my emails last week telling me to maintain contact via the complaints line & solicitors...... I have remained very polite though I have proof of their dishonesty in writing,...... I don't feel I have done anything wrong, & neither does my housing solicitor after I copied him in to the emails I sent to the council, My housing solicitor has now advised me I also need a discrimination solicitor....

    I'm starting t think people like the council, & others just don't like their authority questioned, They seem to be power mad & take offence to that or any of their "orders" being questioned!

    Stay strong, Don't stop trying because of illmanored people 

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  • I have a similar problem.... I am currently trying to be rehoused to a disabled adapted property, The council told me I must maintain contact with them..... I recently noticed they had sent our local MP information saying we had ended 5th & 7th for bids on properties on the local council website, I  questioned this as I had taken screenshots showing we had ended 1st & been ignored, I put a complaint into the council & got a reply saying they had bypassed our bids as the properties had stairlifts instead of a wheelchair lift, But they had also been ignoring the service that advised us to bid on those properties & wer trying to contact the council to arrange adaptations to make the properties suitable.....

    Since all of that I have very politely tried to maintain contact with local housing & housing options, They have responded to my emails last week telling me to maintain contact via the complaints line & solicitors...... I have remained very polite though I have proof of their dishonesty in writing,...... I don't feel I have done anything wrong, & neither does my housing solicitor after I copied him in to the emails I sent to the council, My housing solicitor has now advised me I also need a discrimination solicitor....

    I'm starting t think people like the council, & others just don't like their authority questioned, They seem to be power mad & take offence to that or any of their "orders" being questioned!

    Stay strong, Don't stop trying because of illmanored people 

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    What a nightmare! this is the kind of stuff I end up having. I think why do I struggle with such things yet others sail through. I hope you get it sorted, but also if you now require using a 3rd party its adding stress and yet more potential communication difficulties.

    I've just told some potential new friends i have autism, i'm scared they'll think i'm odd further down the line and i'll lose yet more friends from misunderstanding. i like these people, they seem to be good people from what i can tell. i'm hoping i havent messed it up but then i'm trying to think its better now than months down the line. I told them also because they come into contact with the other people i told today (the chemical people) I sometimes wonder why we're odd for being honest and straight. NT tend to white lie and cover things up and its normal. Its odd to me.

    I guess I ask people why their going against the rules, where as others ignore it. I dont know. Life is so complicated. Im now worried i'll lose these new potential friends as i have 1 friend but no real good friends really